- •Предисловие
- •Unit 1. Types of Family in Modern Society
- •Focus Vocabulary List
- •The British Family
- •The American Family
- •The Future of the Family
- •Vocabulary Exercises
- •Британская семья
- •The Family
- •The Problem of (Cohabit)
- •Integrated Discourse Skills Development
- •III. Monologue Discourse Modelling
- •2. Class Activities
- •IV. Dialogue Discourse Modelling
- •2. Class Activities
- •Unit 2. What Makes a Good Parent? Family Discipline and Changes in Parental Authority
- •Focus Vocabulary List
- •Permissiveness: “a Beautiful Idea” that Didn’t Work?
- •Comprehension Check
- •Article Rendering: Basic Structure Build-Up
- •Parents Are Too Permissive with Their Children Nowadays
- •1. Fill in the columns in the chart with the corresponding adjectives and phrases from the list below. Some descriptions may fit into both columns.
- •2. When you have completed the chart, pick out all the (1) synonyms and (2) antonyms to the following characteristics.
- •1. Synonyms 2. Antonyms
- •3. Make use of the completed chart to give a brief sketch of each child/parent type. Use the following questions as a guide.
- •Difficult Children
- •The Monster Children
- •Life Styles: “What Makes a Good Parent”?
- •Ivan sokolov
- •Vocabulary Exercises
- •The Power of No
- •Integrated Discourse Skills Development
- •I. Agree or disagree with the quotations below. Be sure to provide solid arguments.
- •II. Monologue Discourse Modelling
- •III. Polylogue Discourse Modelling
- •1. Out-of-class Projecting
- •Debate Techniques
- •Introduction
- •Arguments and Counter-arguments
- •Questions
- •2. Class Activities
- •IV. Monologue Discourse Modelling
- •Individual Argumentative Techniques
- •Project on a Problem Situation
- •Introduction
- •2. Class Activities
- •V. Written Discourse Skills Development
- •Unit 3. Problems of a Young Family
- •Focus Vocabulary List
- •Additional Vocabulary List
- •The Child Care Dilemma
- •Comprehension and Discussion Guide
- •It’s 10:00 a.M.: Do You Know What Your Sitter’s Doing?
- •Smart ways to check on your sitter
- •It’s 4:00 p.M.: Do You Know Where Your Children Are?
- •Vocabulary Exercises
- •Back to Day Care
- •Что творят с детьми няни (…или Как проследить за процессом воспитания)
- •Integrated Discourse Skills Development
- •I. Written Discourse Modelling
- •2. Class Activities:
- •II. Polylogue Discourse Modelling
- •III. Monologue Discourse Modelling
- •Unit 4. Hazards of Teenage Sex
- •Focus Vocabulary List
- •Teenage Sex: Just Say “Wait”
- •Lower the Age of Consent
- •Vocabulary Exercises
- •Дочки-матери
- •Integrated Discourse Skills Development
- •I. Polylogue Discourse Modelling
- •III. Dialogue Discourse Modelling
- •2. Class Activities
- •Unit 5. Problems of a Young Family Young Adults: Living in Parental Homes or Living Away?
- •Focus Vocabulary List
- •Show Me the Way to Go Home
- •Comprehension and Discussion Guide
- •Back to Mum After All This Time
- •Could You Throw Out Your Child?
- •Vocabulary Exercises
- •Is Your Nest Too Full?
- •Bit of a Crowd in the Empty Nest
- •Integrated Discourse Skills Development
- •I. Polylogue Discourse Modelling
- •II. Written Discourse Skills Development
- •I. Background Reference Information
- •II. Letter Structure Focus
- •III. Sample Letter Publication Foreword
- •Unit 6. Marriage and Divorce
- •Focus Vocabulary List
- •Vast Majority of Americans Still Believe in the Family
- •Comprehension and Discussion Guide
- •Vocabulary Exercises
- •In Great Britain, an Easier Out
- •Divorce
- •Integrated Discourse Skills Development
- •I. Polylogue Discourse Modelling
- •2. Class Activities
- •II. Monologue Discourse Modelling
- •Individual Argumentative Techniques
- •III. Written Discourse Development
- •IV. Monologue Discourse Modelling
- •References
- •Contents
Introduction
Recent fads in child upbringing research and broad-scale nationwide adjustments in social and economic institutions providing support for family stability have brought about a major clash between the advocates of the authoritative approach towards child-rearing and the proponents of “the liberated child” concepts. As sociologists, psychiatrists and other scholars are warning that a return to a balanced social life cannot be achieved without a reliable family base, family advisers from both parties are simultaneously striving to overcome the effects of too much permissiveness at home and to retain faith in “the liberated child” philosophy.
Definitions
Authoritativeness – a theory in child upbringing promoted by a group of scholars, which is based on harsh assertive parental authority, strict order and ample application of punishment; in extreme forms may be shifting towards familial dictatorship and authoritarianism.
Permissiveness – a theory in bringing up children that became popular through the writings of Dr. Benjamin Spock, by which a child is encouraged to behave without restriction. The theory is critical of any form of punishment and regards persuasion and discussion the main methods in raising children.
Sample Story
A lot of parents now seem to be turning on their own children. My mother tells me that when she goes to a party there is always talk of the children – but something has changed. Once the parents used to boast. Now they commiserate and exchange examples of their own sons’ and daughters’ awfulness. There was the case of the father who shot and killed his “uncontrollable” son, was tried for the crime and set free.
There was a poll in woman’s magazine in which 10,000 mothers were asked whether they would again choose to have children. Seventy per cent said they would not. Newspapers play up stories of youth gangs and violence while the public clamors for a “tighter rein”.
Sometimes the children do not even seem quite human: it’s difficult to picture the toughest, coolest ones crying, hard to believe they were ever babies. Even the children we choose as our movie and television stars are appealing, almost, for their very sinisterness. In a new movie last week a man tried to stab a 5-year-old boy to death and when he raised his knife over the boy’s throat, the audience cheered. This movie had to do with demonic possession, and the devil was personified by a child.
Arguments and Counter-arguments
Pro: The authoritative approach towards child-rearing is far from being a sheer fad. Historically originating from Biblical fundamentals, further reinforced in Victorian times (~ 1837-1901), it’s been theoretically developed and tested out throughout centuries.
Con: Permissiveness is by no means a mere experiment. While it is a relatively young child-rearing practice, it is an alternative fully grounded theory backed up by such classics on the subject as S. Freud (1856-1939), Dr. Spock (1903-1998) and other influential authors.
Pro: Strong parental authority has become a time-proof familial and societal tradition. It’s been advocated by generation of parents all over the globe for an imposing period of time. It’s been a clearly dominant method of child upbringing (~ 80 per cent of all households worldwide).
Con: The so-called Victorian values, which, above all, have been subjected to reasonable doubt, are a thing of the past. There’s no sense to adhere to primitive archaic views which are obviously incompatible with the pace and requirements of the modern advanced society.
Pro: The family unit is an important societal institution and needs harsh regulations and role teaching to be imposed from childhood. As proven by psychologists and pediatricians, what’s learned in one’s green years serves as the basis of the whole life.
Con: Most regulations and reservations are outdated in today’s advanced society. Modern society is based on democratic concepts and a freedom of personal choice. Imposed values are a latent form of pressure and violence, according to psychologists.
Pro: The authoritative approach is justified by the fact that children are psychologically immature. They need to be guided by a strong hand away from the negative and into the positive. They are prone to be spoiled by parental overindulgence. (“Too much love will kill you.” The Queen)
Con: Things should not be imposed and forced, but discussed. Children should be encouraged to develop a distinct voice of their own. Similar to any person, who possesses a freedom of will by birth, any child should be allowed to make a personal choice of what she/he thinks is beneficial for her/him.
Pro: Harsh authoritativeness is the best springboard for a child starting a life in the alien cruel world. In other words, it helps a child adopt an adequate reaction to strict regulations, duties and denial of rewards. It provides the optimal model of the stringent realities of the world from early childhood.
Con: In a permissive household, a kid has a greater potential for self-fulfillment. Children are extensively encouraged to be active, creative, responsive and independent, as their personal preferences, binds and aspirations are not suppressed. Consequently, they are most likely to make a success of life.
Pro: Overindulgence makes a child helpless and infantile. Excessive permissiveness eventually causes disappointment and degenerates into complexes and psychological trauma originating from an adopted feeling of social inadequacy.
Con: Permissiveness is psychologically less harmful than authoritativeness. In the latter case deeper mental wounds are inflicted. Any form of compelled authority inevitably regresses into authoritarianism and triggers hidden hatred, rebellion and violent outbursts.
Pro: Lax authority leads to irresponsibility. It further degenerates into a sense of social inadequacy, a disregard of laws and disrespect, an individual’s set of values deteriorates, which pushes one to commit criminal acts. Juvenile delinquency rates surge (~ 76 per cent of all juvenile criminals come from an authoritative family environment).
Con: Permissiveness is not tantamount to sheer negligence and indifference. A child who is reared in a permissive family environment feels content and happy and is not prone to any criminal misdemeanor.
Pro: Parental authority is a sign of heightened attention and involvement. When parents are permissive, they mostly have either no wish or time to spend with their children and no incentive to bring them under control. Authoritativeness is not tyranny, but reason and sense, which save a kid from the negative outer influence.
Con: Permissiveness is not negligence, it’s based on love and care. The more a child’s parents care for her/him, the more they are prone to permit. Consequently, parental lenience serves as a measure of affection towards their offspring, while authoritativeness, on the contrary, is based on fear.
Pro: Unruly kids could be dealt with by sole means of harsh authority and corporal punishment. This is the only beneficial way to impose an idea of parental regard, respect of authority and the notion of fair punishment. Over 80 per cent of parents admit they resort to corporal punishment as the most effective method of child treatment.
Con: Parental lenience is the best teacher. Peaceful methods like persuasion and discussion attract children to their parents, facilitate a child’s perception of the notions of respect and a positive problem-solving approach.
Pro: Authoritativeness zeroes in on parents’ happiness and psychological comfort. On the reverse, permissive parents turn into their children’s slaves. They feel constant fear and guilt and take excessive responsibility for their kids.
Con: Permissiveness intensifies the concept of a child’s well-being and happiness. Parents should be subservient to their offspring as they should assume the responsibility for rearing decent members of the future generation.