- •Improving Communications
- •Oral communications
- •Written communications
- •7 Tips to become a Good Conversationalist
- •Six Common Mistakes That Spoil Conversations
- •1. Blabbermouthing
- •2. The "take-away" and "me-too" syndrome
- •3. Unsolicited advice
- •4. Interrupting
- •5. Contradicting
- •6. Stingy contributors
- •8 Правил знайомства з діловими партнерами
- •18 Ways to improve your body language
- •6 Чарівних букв
- •Voice and Language
- •Visual aids
- •Fail to prepare
- •No weak opening
- •When I know I have to make a presentation, even a small one before a very limited number of people, I start feeling nervous…
- •When a big meeting is coming up, one that will involve a number of presentations from a range of people…
- •I would say my ability as a presenter is…
- •While I am up on stage, I…
- •Comments about my presentations are generally…
- •If I have to go “off the cuff”…
- •If I could describe public speaking as a food, it would be…
- •Visual aids versus handouts
- •Я к вдало провести ділову зустріч.
- •Introducing the Agenda
- •Introducing the First Item on the Agenda
- •1. What is the desired outcome of the meeting? (How will you know the meeting was successful?)
- •2. Who needs to be there? (And who doesn’t?)
- •3. Is the agenda prepared? (If not now, when?)
- •4. What can I do to prepare? (How can I help others prepare?)
- •5. What can I do to make this meeting succeed? (What is my responsibility?)
- •Discuss the following questions:
- •Exercise 6
- •Negotiating
- •Well, we could make it 7,5 % .
- •The trouble is, the general manager isn't very interested in marketing. He's only concerned about …..5…... If you make it 10%, I might be able to persuade him.
- •But you said…
- •6 Найпоширеніших помилок при проведенні переговорів
- •Communicating with someone in writing
- •The salutation
- •The subject title
- •The body of the letter
- •The parting
- •The signature
- •Inquiries (Enquiries)
- •Поради при написанні ділових листів
- •……………: Always proofread and edit your letters.
- •Avoid the use of …..1….. Words
- •Informal Style Formal Style
- •Identify yourself, if necessary
- •Include necessary information
- •Ten keys to writing an essay
- •Budget your time carefully
- •Read the topic carefully
- •Plan your essay before you write
- •Be sure your handwriting is as clear and legible as possible
- •Follow a clear, logical organization
- •Topic Type a: Contrast/Opinion
- •Use concrete examples and specific reasons
- •Use signal words to indicate transitions
- •Use a variety of sentence types.
- •Check your essay for errors.
- •Електронна пошта
- •Chief, Guy, Sport
- •My Buddy
- •Assumption Junction
- •Peak-a-Boo
- •2 (Suggested answer)
- •Listening 4
- •Contents
- •References
Six Common Mistakes That Spoil Conversations
It's always easier to be aware of another's conversational mistakes than our own.
Our own mistakes are so habitual, so well-intentioned, they easily escape our notice. We are just being ourselves, right? Nonetheless, others making mistakes can be our teachers, if only by serving as negative examples.
These mistakes apply to most social and much business conversation. They are mistakes because they injure the integrity of the conversation by blocking its flow, creating frustration, and reducing understanding and satisfaction.
Here are six of the most common ones:
1. Blabbermouthing
Talking too much. Going on and on without giving the other(s) their turn. The one who hogs the talk-channel soon frustrates others. Involved in their own monologues, blabbers feel some satisfaction in carrying on - even when they have lost the involvement of the (former) listener.
Some professionals suffer from the occupational hazard of this mistake - professors, clergy, speakers and trainers, and others who are paid to talk for a living.
2. The "take-away" and "me-too" syndrome
A talker begins a topic and the listener grabs it away and opens a me-centered monologue. You say, "I saw a great movie last weekend . . ." and the listener-soon-to-be talker says, "Oh? I saw one, too . . ." and begins to describe their experience.
The initiator of the movie topic is unable to complete their thought because it's been high-jacked. This is a very childlike and frustrating behavior, and eventually drives people away.
3. Unsolicited advice
Some people are quick to give advice as soon as the other person mentions a problem. "Have you thought of . . .? "Why don't you . . .?" erupt quickly from their overflowing volcanoes of counsel.
Men seem especially prone to this tendency, although women are not immune from it. It is also prevalent among "professional know-it-alls" such as teachers, managers, administrators, and some lawyers, ministers, and counselors.
4. Interrupting
This means butting in before your partner has completed the thought. Usually this is done because the interrupting people are impatient and are afraid of not getting their thoughts expressed.
Many of these interruptions occur on TV interviews when the host has guests with opposing views. The guests butt in, over-talk, and even shout in order to get in their words.
5. Contradicting
This is the ultimate conversation-blocker. Although great in structured debate, direct disagreement is not helpful in conversation, which is at its best when it’s mutual and collaborative.
"I disagree with you" or the more gingerly "Yes, but" are in plentiful supply in many conversations, and another form of the "I'm right, you're wrong" game.
The better way is to hear out the point of view being expressed, check that you understand it, and then offer "My view is different from yours. Let me explain." People who feel heard and understood are more likely to hear and understand someone expressing a different view.
6. Stingy contributors
This describes the people who listen, take and receive, but don't give. They contribute little enthusiasm, information, self-disclosure, acknowledgement, compliments or other elements that lift a conversation. They like to "pick the brains" of others, but contribute nothing. They take few risks, and while others share personal experiences, the "stingy contributor" remains cool and contained with personal matters. This cautious, ungenerous style causes an out-of-balance conversation in which real trust can never exist.
When you find you are becoming frustrated or annoyed in a conversation, there is a good chance that the other party is exhibiting one of these mistakes. You are experiencing how these mistake patterns cause problems. With your heightened awareness, now work to eliminate them from your own repertoire.
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How to Speak About Tough Topics in Tense Times
Most people avoid difficult conversations. They can justify that avoidance in many ways. In fact, research shows that many folks will even leave their positions and walk away rather than manage the interpersonal conflicts at work.
Good communication skills give you the confidence to have difficult conversations.
When life is tense, listen first
Most people long to be understood, to be seen, to be heard, recognized for who they are. It makes us feel connected. In tense times, we often become more concerned with protecting ourselves than learning about others. The willingness to listen first and speak second demonstrates our maturity and self-control.
When discussing a tough topic, begin with a mutual agreement to stick with the conversation at least for as long as it takes for each of you to understand the issue as the other sees it.
Know what you think and the result you want
It is not unusual for unskilled people to go into a difficult conversation focused on how they want the other person to change. Unless you are the boss with the clout to fire, this approach is almost guaranteed to backfire.
When entering a difficult conversation, take ownership of your part in the issue. In your preparation, look deeply into your own motives, words and actions. Be prepared to clarify your thinking, talk about your feelings and know the result you want.
Express and demonstrate your willingness
If you are truly interested in a solution to a difficult situation, you demonstrate it by setting aside enough time to engage in conversation. Be willing to talk together in spite of the discomfort. Acknowledge it. Everyone knows it is difficult. Let the other person know that you appreciate their willingness to handle the issue.
Maintain a mutually respectful manner
Each person has the right to be treated respectfully. If you are feeling abused by the words of another, be sure to tell that person how you feel and how you would like to be spoken to. It is imperative that all words and actions are purposely respectful when broaching difficult topics. That includes your body language!
Choose appropriate timing
Be sure to check with the other person to set a time to talk. Before you do that, make sure that you have chosen an optimum time to suggest, and that there will be sufficient time and a private space in which to converse.
Yes, you may have to bite your tongue just at the moment you would most like to speak. If you really want the relationship to move forward, though, choose your timing well to ensure the best result.
Remain engaged
Set some guidelines for the conversation. Discuss what you will do if emotions rise or the conversation strays from the issue. Be clear about that.
Words to be wise
The attitudes the parties bring to a difficult conversation determine the outcomes. When you approach a situation believing it can be remedied, you are ahead of the game.
If you believe that an agreement can be reached and demonstrate your willingness to engage in the process of finding it, you are part of the solution. If you refuse to discuss the issue, you remain part of the problem.
Few people seek out confrontation for enjoyment. When you do want to work something out with another person, following these guidelines will help you to bring your best to the table, and, therefore, give your best to the conversation.
Task 2
Choose one of the articles and render it in English.
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