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you pay the thieves—what is that which doesn't live in you? But still, you are together—that joy of being together is one of the happiest joys. Marriage is wonderful institution, very wonderful, no doubt about it. But it should be a carriage to carry you both, not to play games. Treat the wife, as awife; the moment you start saying, why and if, you are wrong. That's enough of a signal to correct yourself. Woman doesn't have a long, war-like quality. She picks it up slowly, ever so slowly, until finally, she becomes a warrior. Man is a warrior in nature, very glowing and beautiful; there is no reason for a man to be upset.

If woman can upset you, you are in deep trouble. Because man, like the sun, has to keep his setup, doesn't matter what. That's the price you pay for marriage. When you have a girlfriend, you can go and take her to dinner and all that, all those lies you tell her and all those lies she tells you, that doesn't settle the issue. Sometimes you make mistakes, blunders, and then you go under. Marriage is a very vital issue. Marriage is a balance sheet, which everyday must be done: Where are we? What are we? Where are we going? How well are we doing? How bad are we doing?

Women will take a long time to attack you; men always take a very short time to attack. Men are very much in an attacking mood: they get angry, they get jealous, whatever you call that, and then say whatever comes out. Whereas, woman is very slowly simmering and heating up and one day, all of a sudden, you will feel that she, who is somebody you never thought of as having a tongue and a mouth, will serve you notice.

There are four or five things that awoman will feel deserves an outburst to do you in. One is when she feels you don't love her, you love somebody else. Second, you are not very careful of children; third, you threaten her home, her security; fourth, you do not care for her personally, instead of helping, you put more pressure on her by bringing friends, relatives into the whole thing, where she does not feel safe. Safety, family, children and herself, that's all. It's all covered by these things.

Student: When you were talking about playmate, did you mean you have an opinion that it is better to

■have a marriage or better to just have a girlfriend?

Yogi Bhajan: They say marriage is something we don't want to live without. Or marriage is something you cannot |jve with, It is in-between. It all depends on you, your manners and your management of yourself as a man. As a man, if you've got your environments and your manners, y0U will never fail. Man will never fail. A man who mans himself and who is married doesn't need anything. Once your woman knows that you are decisive, she will never provoke you. Once you know you are courageous, she will never stimulate you. Once you know how to protect your territory, she will never cross you. Woman is a reflection,

like a moon, moon reflects the Sun's light; moon doesn't have its own light.

Student: What do you do in an argument with a woman?

Yogi Bhajan: Go, play football. When you are attacked by a woman, never, if you want to win, never respond. She attacks in order to get a response, right? She will say, "You son of a bitch, God, you are the ugliest man 1ever married." And you say, "Thank God you are married. We will discuss that later—bye. I have something to do, some place to go. Don't worry, I am a son of a bitch, I am the ugliest man, but when I come home, be ready to hug me." What can she do? But if you respond and say, "I am not ugly, I am not this, I am not that," she will say, "Your mother is ugly, your grandfather is ugly, your neighbors are ugly." I mean, she will rub you so badly,., what is the idea of getting rubbed? She will provoke you, provoke you, and provoke you, and then you will end up beating her up. Then she calls 911 and you end up in the cell. Woman can provoke and 911 is there to oblige.

One woman, a man never said anything, but she called and said, "Oh, I am dying, I feel giddiness, I..., my husband, my husband my address and I..., 332, 1st Lane." They recorded it and went to the address and found him at home, sleeping.

They said, "There is a fight."

He said, "Where? Where is my wife? Where is my wife?" They said, "What do you mean? Your call came from here."

He said, "No, she is not at home, the call couldn't have come from here."

The telephone call was forwarded from somewhere else, where she called. So, they investigated the servant, asking, "Where is the wife?"

"I don't know."

"What time did she leave?" "11 o'clock"

"Where is she now?" "We don't know."

It was a puzzle for the police, they didn't know what to do. He said, "There is a fight with what? With my wife? Absolutely not. I came home from the office, I am tired, I am sleeping, anything else I can do for you?"

They said, "But there is a complaint."

He said, "From whom? Bring her before me, I want to see what wrong I have done."

She had forwarded the call to some friend's number and then from there, connected back and played this drama. When the police reached her, she said, "I wanted to test whether 911 comes or not."

Yogi Bhajan: They are moon, they can go anywhere, do anything. There is no end to their charisma. Manu wrote a very beautiful thing. He is a law giver tike Moses. They call him, in India, Manu, that's Manu's law. He writes this thick tome, pages of paper in the scripture, praising the woman; everything is great, good and wonderful. But the last line, he writes, "Oh, woman, when your brain hemisphere falls in your butts, you do not know where your heels are." That one line, nothing else, everything else is in appreciation of the woman—inches and inches thick—but the last line is what made history.

Student: Sir, as we switch to the Aquarian Age, what are the top values or rules for a man to deliver in the Aquarian Age, as opposed to the Piscean.

Yogi Bhajan: For an Aquarius man, he has to have an experience with a woman, not understanding. He has to have merger with a woman, not communication. He has to have deep understanding with woman, and not just association of time and space. Aquarius man who does not rely on experience will falter; he will not be glorious. Piscean man is logic, reason, discussion, time and space. Aquarius man is a royal man; he is established like a king in the palace and over all the territories; he is a king, he doesn't go visit personally to make it that way. That's just the way it is. The man, like the law, must rule the domain.

Student: So will there be any special challenges to us,

as men, to deliver...

Yogi Bhajan: No, it is not challenges, it is a death. It's not a challenge. Either we live above it or we die under it—we don't have a choice. Our only choice is to create our caliber, our concession to caliber and strength to caliber. We must develop a meditative mind, which is the only privilege of the Age of Aquarius man, and he should get an answer quickly. No motions, no commotions, no feeling, no this, no that, it won't work. You should be very meditatively equipped, with your mental mind as a meditative mind, and you should have an answer right before you.

Student: What characteristics should a man cultivate in relationship to his family?

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you. There is a friend of mine, he is a gambler, professional gambler. All his life he has done nothing but gamble, I asked him, "Why do you gamble?"

I met him down there, in the Caribbean; there is an island where they invite special gamblers. So; we went there to meet somebody and he met me there, and he said, "I have come here to gamble. " They paid his room expenses so he would come and gamble,

I asked him, "Is that your profession?"

He committed and admitted to me, "I don't want to gamble, but I can't stop it."

I said, "It's a very simple thing, whenever you have the urge to gamble, sit down and meditate, gamble with the lord, see who wins."

Today, he has the best meditation, he is the best man. He has money, he is rich, he has all that the world can give him. So, why do we gamble? We gamble with everything in life, because we refuse to relate to our higher Self. We have a higher Self, why should we be mediocre? Always look to your higher Self—always. There is one thing in Sikh religion, which I particularly like and that is, Cherdhi Kaia, exalted spirit, that will give you charm, that will give you a smile, that will give you humor, and that will give you excellence. Not one woman will follow you—50 will.

Student: In terms of us having ten bodies, sir, if we are calling on Guru Ram Das and Guru Gobind Singh, I mean, you have encouraged us to call on Guru Ram Das for assistance in various situations.

Yogi Bhajan: That is where your subtle body will become shining and the radiant body will become a hundred thousand times stronger, then you get protection. It's a simple formula; it is not something fake or made up, or a philosophy.

Guru Ram Das is the Lord of Miracles—that's all he is. The moment you call on him, you are out of the picture, he is in. There is no escape; matter will go away. That is my very personal experience and absolutely very well tried and tested. Also,’the words of Nanak are very beautiful,

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a bottle of wine through the whole congregation, all the way to the altar, and put it there, requires courage, and he said, "Unto my lord, I give this to you, I am saved, I am honored, I am exalted."

Student: Sir, why do we develop our humor?

Yogi Bhajan: Okay, attack me, be nasty and attack me.

Student: You are a very ugly guy

Yogi Bhajan: What did he say?

Student: You are very ugly

Yogi Bhajan: What?

Student: You are very ugly:

Yogi Bhajan: I am? Am I ugly? Good for you, so now, you have now an ugly yogi. That's good. Enjoy him. You know karate and the martial arts?

Student: Yeah

Yogi Bhajan: When somebody attacks you, take that force and throw them over. Confront only where you can elevate, otherwise, never confront, bypass it. It's a simple rule in order for a man to have good sexual energy, good personality, good environments, and agood home. Confront where you have to elevate and if you can't elevate . . .

you know how many people call me names? "You are a womanizer, " "you are acharlatan," I don't know even those words, but it's a long list. I don't think that means anything. I think they are seeing their face in the mirror. Somebody once told me, "I have heard you are a womanizer."

I said, "I have not heard it." "But have you heard from me?"

1said, "No, you have heard; I have not." "Why not?"

I said, "I don't have ears for this kind of stuff." " I have heard, you must have heard."

I said, "That's true, you have heard and I am confirming you have heard, t have not heard, that's okay."

Student: Sir, what is the relationship between a woman's actions as a moon and a man's subconscious as the Sun,

Yogi Bhajan: Woman's actions are to provoke you consciously and get you out subconsciously and make you unconscious. She is a very, very deep, well-grounded animal, if she comes on with her beastly animal nature, you don't have one part, one ounce that can protect you. Thank, God it comes only at times; otherwise man, when a woman gets wild, even the wilderness cannot protect you* That's true. So, it is better to be very gentle, safe and play the role of kindness. Play the role of kindness, not blindness. Mostly, you are very blind to.woman. You never find where she can hit you or where she can harm you. You

only want to please her, .When you.please her and please her, then you ■want 'topolice her and police her, then she gets you; be very normal,

1am going to talk about all that tomorrow. If the woman would like to just present a father image, woman can follow the father image, then she will go against father phobia and father mania, or for father phobia or father mania. There is a girl I have been talking to for three days, I asked her, "What is your problem with your boss? He is so wonderful, so well read, so gentle, so beautiful."

She said, "Yeah, he is gentle. He is like my ex-husband, -who was very gentle; he was a banana."

I said, "What do you mean? What's that? He is not your husband."

"He is just like him, though, I can't like him."

Some women have seen their father flirting and sexing left and right, they will never trust you. In the middle of the sex, she will say, "I have cramps," just puts you through misery.

Student: Sir, Ijust don't understand one

thing you said, you said it should be written on the wall that a man should eat what?

Yogi Bhajan: Beets.

Student: Thank You.

Yogi Bhajan: Beets will beat out from you the weakness in your blood, Beet greens will strengthen your digestive system.

Student: When dating, what do you recommend? You said something about no hassle, no hassle, no fuss whatever,

YogiBhajan: Dating is a blind; date, a friend fixes the date, you fix the date, there.is a chase date, blind date,

.fixed date, circumstantial date, there are so many ways of dating.

Student: Right

Yogi Bhajan: Right? You have to be super gentleman. If you are a super gentleman, on any date, the other partner, if she is not admissibly correct, will leave you. Then your choice of marriage will never be wrong. But if you date for sex, or you date for a party—or any other reason than marriage—I have seen people living eight, nine years together, and all of a sudden they break, because they never understood each other. It was a marriage of living arrangements for convenience, for insecurity, whatever. ■That's not dating. Dating is going with somebody to lay out the analysis of our plus and minus and come out with ■the balance sheet.

Student: Thank you. Sat Nam.

Yogi Bhajan: See, what we are teaching here, 30 or 40 men, do you know what the idea is behind it? You do not have a basic definition of a man, his activities and projection, his strategy. That's why. We are trying to remedy this lack of fundamental understanding. There will be certain definitions and homework so that you will understand it and become a totally wonderful man.

Student: Sat Nam, Sir, can sex help you get liberated? How does that work for a spiritual man? Can sex help to liberate?

Yogi Bhajan: What?

Student: Can sex help you get liberated?

Yogi Bhajan: From where?

Students: (Laugh)

Student: I mean, can it be a part of the spiritual practice?

Yogi Bhajan: ;JMo, it is a part of a very powerful domain of yours. Liberation? You can be liberated out of sex by a divorce, or you can be liberated from sex by getting HIV. Sex is not a small thing, sex is a sixth

sense. If you are together and your juice is together, you feel wonderful. If you are not together and your juice is not together, you will do weird things. Sex affects your behavior, your feeling; your projection, your strategy. Sex is the most dangerous thing marvhas got, but it is the best thing man has got.

You are born by sex, you pursue sex, and you die by sex. Now I will read you something very funny today, you all will be shocked* This is America talking, not a yogi from India. Healing diseases with body and mind, San Francisco, researchers at the University of California, San Francisco, are going beyond the physical to help patients deal with disease. They are starting to incorporate spirituality and alternative therapies along with traditional medicine, into a complete healing process, UCSF offers 8 weeks of a trans-reduction course to patients, and earlier this summer, some of the 30 HIV infected individuals attended this center. It is the first of its kind and will provide a healing retreat for the participants. For AIDS patients, Dr. Johnson Tokmato, the UCSF clinic director said that a survey has shown many patients are into alternative methods of healing, not only our patients are becoming

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Yogi Bhajan: So, spirituality and personal empowerment, personal identity...empowerment is such a dirty word, used for all purposes. It implies that you have to be bigger than somebody. Identity is when you are smaller than the other person so that person can bend on you, depend on you, be dependant, not be dependable. This empowerment these days is getting really..., well, now there are pages and pages and pages. What good have they done? As he puts it, "our programs are not about illness or dying but rather about the quality of life, no matter what the circumstance are."

Student: You said something about the passages on the right or the left, and is there any difference?

Yogi Bhajan: It depends upon which nostril is working.

Student: And which one is more dominating all the time?

Yogi Bhajan: No, if your right nostril is working, you have to, you want to go and ejaculate immediately, if your left is working, you want to take time.

Kriya to Create a S a i n t

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Posture: Sit in a cross-legged posture. Chin in Neck Lock. Fold forward, putting your chest on your knees. Only fold as far as you naturally can, keeping the spine as straight as possible.

Mudra: Stretch your arms straight out in front of you. Lock the left thumb into the right hand, placing it between the thumb and forefinger (Jupiter finger) of the right hand. Fingers are straight and pointing forward, arms are straight and locked. There is no bend in the elbows.

Don’t let the arms drop to the floor; keep them in line with the spine, stretching forward as an extension of the torso.

Time: 62 Minutes

To End: The final 11 Minutes is done with Breath of Fire.

Comments: This is your sexual age. I want to see your sciatica stretched and opened up through this posture. To create a saint, base is a man, or base is a woman. So we are dealing with your very elemental things, defining them, explaining them, then through these kriyas, we want you to experience that.

Commentary on Kriya to Create a S a i n t

The pain you are experiencing is because the flexibility of your sciatica and sexual nerve has gone much more off than it should have. You are governed by two things: the sciatic nerve and the central nerve. Over the years you become frigid and overdo when it comes to food; you eat a lot, good dinner, good breakfast. That which tastes good when it goes through the mouth will start hanging here (the gut) and that is bad, because when it grows larger, it puts pressure on the diaphragm.

You are very incompetent sexually, this so-called 'sexual act,' insults your sexuality. You don't care for your sexual form, you don't understand that it is fundamentally correct to keep yourself in good sexual form. Once you have incorrect sexuality, even with all the grace bestowed on you, you will still be angry, frustrated. There is aword for it, what do they call them? Irritated, groggy, foolish. Actually, there is no perversion but this: when a male cannot undertake to nurture his own central nervous system and cannot afford to utilize the power of his own sensuality. You always think in the West that sex is just having intercourse, but intercourse means also my talking to you now—this is also intercourse. Intercourse means exchanging between two people. Intercourse has a lot of manners and meanings and understandings. Cohabiting means sex, but cohabiting also means living together. Get it together to be together— that is what together is. It has to be general, absolutely general. You cannot love me and hate B and love C and hate D, because the hate is the part of you that makes you an inferior man; and love is what makes you a superior man. There must come a balance. Suppose you have three people and you love two, you are minus one, and that stress you can't understand, but it contributes to your entire grace and you will be handicapped in this race called life.

Youmaytry to goto adoctor or apsychologistor apsychiatrist or a swami, or a yogi or a teacher; but nothing will help you, because you are stupid about yourself. It's important that you be very wise about yourself. It's not what you do—it is what you think! Your thinking will come from your physical projection and your self-importance, your self-importance will increase day by day and as it increases, your nervous system, your sciatica, your central nervous system, will not hold out for you and you will start acting out. Your friends and your relatives will feel it first, then everybody will feel it and you know what they will do? When you talk to somebody in a very noncoherent way, the other man looks at it. But this doesn't have to happen. This isn't a valid way of living. The price you pay for a good life is life itself. I repeat: the price you pay for a good life is life itself—and you cannot pay with anything other than goodness.

twill tell you my experience of 28 years and I say it openly; I have said it so many times. If you want to make the best of me or some statue of me, thinking I am a great teacher and all that, fine, t^ut take the peanuts. Take so many that that many peanut shells, that many scabs, I have got on me. You know what I am saying? If there is an intense insult, it is my glory. It is the glory which kept me alive and made me go through this:

“Dukh parhar, sukh ghar laijaa-ay,"

"Give the pain and calamity to God and take happiness home."

All those who are my students, I have done them a favor. I put two 6' 2" gray headstones where there was no place for a grave, but I thought this is enough, stone can stand. I wrote The Song of the Khalsa on the back and engraved on the front, the line,

"Ketiaa dookh bukh sad maar. Eh bhee daat teree daataar."

This is the sutra on which I live. Ketia means many, many; dookh means discomforts, painful discomfort; bukh means hunger, painful hunger; sadmaar, if it's multiplied a hundred thousand times, God it is your blessing, thank God that you feel me fit or make me deserving to go through it.

Those of you who do not believe in God, you do not believe in calamity, you do not believe in reality, you do not believe in any ethics or your higher morality. No, this is all there is: if God has found you, He will test you out, through a very vulgar, unsophisticated, inhuman, small situation. The funny part is, when you smile, it will disappear. Calamity has one situation: it creates a climate of terror, horror, fear; but the moment you say, "Unto God it goes, God is with me, Ang Sang Wahe Guru," it will practically disappear. Because if somebody comes to your home and you do not open the door, you do not welcome them, you do not feed them, they will disappear won't they? So when calamity comes, don't receive it, don't associate with it, don't feel that you can't do the same thing you would do as a man with a woman.

Student: So, I think, in sex you should try relaxing and going to the left nostril.

Yogi Bhajan: There are lots of things we are going to learn in four days, I shouldn't teach you everything today. I know that you are ail very eager for me to show you a movie: here the mouse is going in, here the mouse coming out. But I have a very simple, gentle way of teaching, so that you can understand with a lot of grace and honor. Once God has made you a man, he has made you a successful man. The Lord Infinite cannot create damaged property. Whether you believe in God or not, somebody created you,

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whosoever created you, as an artist, has created perfect art in you. So there is no need to be handicapped. Now, let's meditate a little bit so that you may not get off scotfree. Let us see how manly you are.

Student: What does this meditation do?

Yogi Bhajan; You should tell me in the evening, rather than my telling you what it does. You can't escape the answer. You see, you have come herein a wonderful situation. Here we are, everything is at stake. This men's course is not a joke. This is about everything we have and if we can make men out of you, we will have a very powerful future and wonderful peace of mind, a wonderful legacy. Because to create a saint, base is a man, to create a saint, base is a woman. So we are dealing with your very elemental things, defining them, explaining them, then through kriyas we want you to experience that. Is that all right?

Student: Sat Nam, how does a single man know it's appropriate to pursue a relationship with a woman that he is interested in?

Yogi Bhajan: "Beejmantrasarbkogyan. "Everyspermatozoa knows how to reach the egg and go eight times around. All men of all quality know, from the very sight and smell of the woman, what is what. They may not get it, but they know it. When rhino is excited, he doesn't need a horn, he is the horn. Some things excite a man, some things depress a man, some things coordinate with a man, some things are friends within man, some things are against the man, some things only cater to the ego of the man, and some things totally destroy the ego of the man. Man goes through all the facets but with all the facets if he can remain a man, he shall have no problem. Whether married, unmarried, single, multiple.

You know, royalty, they have what they call a harem. What is it? Nothing—it is just a show. They have as many women or they have as many servants—all this paraphernalia—to glorify themselves. But when a man glorifies himself, then he becomes a real man. Then all prosperity, virtues and things come to him. That’s the beauty of a man.

"Tehal Mehal Thanko milae,Jahan pehai Sant Kripal."

"If the self saintliness has blessed you and you live under that, then all the palaces and servants will be at your door, all will be yours. Then you become very radiant."

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so I couldn't feel the pain and I could sleep. Before I was going into deep sleep, I was told that he had arrived and they couldn't cancel it, they couldn't call. So I asked him, "Krayapa, you have come to have a kundalini experience."

He said, "Yes, Master."

I said, "Put your hand in the quilt, take away my right hand and put it on your forehead and then go."

He did as he was told and all of a minute later, in his Japanese, he started praising the Lord and was so happy. He didn't want to leave; I was told he wanted to stay with me. I said, "Get rid of him as fast as possible. It happened, that's all he came for, we don't want him here." Then, a couple of years later, he was very loving and he said, "Master, I have got one wish in my life."

I said, "I know what wish you have: You want the biggest temple in Japan."

He said, "Yes. But I have books and I have done so many things, but it is not happening." There was, in the corner, a big spoon and in the spoon, the Adi Shakti was carved. I said, "Krayapa, why don't you pick up that spoon?" So long as this spoon of wood will be with you, you will be the richest and the temple will be complete. It is true. Today, he is so popular, he is so good, he is so wonderful, he fofgot who is who; but whenever one of our students goes, he pays them very special respect and recites the story.

This energy, which you have, is priceless, but you need the proper attitude and manners to use it. It is your energy, not anybody else's. Whatever you have is all inside you, if you try to find it outside, you are just living in doubt and wasting time.

Leader, Protector, and Provider— Along with a Little Humor

Don't acclimate yourself, associate yourself, with anything other than humor.

"Hi sweetheart, how are you my moon?" "Doing well."

"Are you waning and waxing?"

You can pull a woman from a mile away to two hundred million thirty-six miles, just with two seconds—simply expand her horizon.

"George, don't you think we should go eat outside tonight?" You don't want to go out, so what do you do? You take the leftover food out, heat it up, and put it on the porch that's outside; you obey. She will laugh and you will laugh. But if you say, "let's go and eat outside," then eat in a cafe where everything is outside. Don't go to a fancy restaurant—tug her into it—you are picking a fight. You are not manning your man; you are not straightforward;

you are just under a very negative, depressed influence which supports your fear. You are afraid and fearful and you are overdoing it. Never, ever overdo and overact with a woman. These are some faculties men have to learn. There are some responsibilities men have to learn. For example, never sneak into the bed of a woman if you have come home late and she is sleeping. Take a glass of milk, go sit down, sip it, whistle, play a song. She must get up and acknowledge you. You think, "Why should I trouble her?" because you don't have a relationship with her.

She will say, "I am sleeping and you are whistling?"

You say, "I am missing you and you are sleeping; let us both whistle."

(Students laugh.)

You have to understand. You have to interlock with a woman. Interlock socially, psychologically, systematically and personally.

There was a guy once, he came to bed late one night. He had his shoes on, the whole thing, and he went flying onto the bed, shouting, "Aaaaaa," and it broke.

His wife was in it; there was total disarray, headboards flying, and she said, "You know what you have done?" He said, "Your Tarzan has come."

(Students laugh.)

That's it! They pulled the whole thing outside and they both slept on the floor.

Your fears are very, very, very, very, very, very annoying to the woman and your aggressiveness is very annoying to the woman. Sometimes, you must understand, there are some women who are, by nature, better women. So they will provoke you, right? You will get hot and beat up and whatever you do, it is your range. Then you both must have sex and you will have sex—in 99.9% of people this happens. Woman has a very provocative range of words. I will give you an example.

Somebody's father came to see their son and daughter- in-law. He came from the office and she gave him a bottle and a nipple and said, "Well, normally your mother is here, so it's better you suck on this to enjoy your day. I am going out to my friend’s house to have a good meal."

Do you know what the net worth of that man is, who she said that to? Six hundred million dollars. She gave him practically a baby's bottle with baby formula in it and she left. Well, he called the butler, he called the maid, he said, "What is the problem?" They said, "Your parents were very hungry and they asked to eat early and we provided them some food but the mistress got mad. She was totally unaware of what was going on." You know what he did the next day, foolishly?

He took his parents to a hotel and moved himself. These are the kinds of reactions people have. I mean to say, if some good people had not intervened, it would have been a final divorce. You overcompensate with your relatives and your family and your environments and your children. That is a very, very cumbersome situation. As a man, you like it or not, you believe it or not, you can do it or not, but you are supposed to be the guardian of security and justice. That's what is expected of you.

I asked somebody, "What you do every Sunday?" He said, "I go to synagogue."

I said, "You? I mean, you and synagogue? You are an atheist; you are not even Jewish, you were just born Jewish."

He said, "No, no, no don't say anything; it keeps my wife calm."

I said, "I know you are an atheist and you don't believe in anything, forget about this synagogue; you don't even believe in God."

He said, "I have started believing, after discussing with you for a few days, but the fact is, where is God?"

I said, "Here you go. What do you do in synagogue?"

He said, "I go and sit down and sleep. It's very calm’to me, but my wife is fanatically religious."

So some things people do actively, because man is a leader, protector, provider and the most graceful institution of all, put together in a family. There is no irrelevance in it. If you understand yourself as a man, you understand what sexuality is, what the senses are and what the sixth sense is, you will totally understand that you are not going to put yourself under such a burden that you may regret it later on. After all, to become rich, rich, rich, rich, you have to think rich, rich, rich and you have to act rich, rich, rich and you have to be rich, rich, rich and you have to carry people rich, rich, rich; there are so many facets to it and you have to come through. Therefore, it is obligatory for you to understand your glory; you must be a royal, glowing person. You must be a competent person. Your answers should be short, precise.

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Student: So are you saying that a woman who wants a man, a big man, wants a good partner sexually also?

Yogi Bhajan: Sexually, sensually, it's very little stuff, it's very little stuff. What I'm saying is to always be vast. Don't waste your life. Be vast, big, excellent, excel, it's natural. No female can ever tolerate a grouchy, complaining, crying man. This is the faculty of the female, which you have adopted. No, I am not kidding. It is the faculty of the female to be complaining, to be insecure, to be grouchy, to be saying, "My hands are hurting, I mean, my legs are falling apart." It's her problem. She wants the Eiffel Tower and to rule over the whole of Paris. Women are very, very well inter-created, inter-decorated human beings, What they want is what glorifies them. If you are glorified and you are royal and you are great they will give their life to you.

Look at Princess Diana, whatever she is, if Charles had acted as a king and a man, if he would have manned his man, he would not have seen this day. So there is an insertion of perversion, because it comes to you out of fear and fear is one process that brings insecurity, and insecurity is one processthat builds a degree of .impotency,-,If..you are worried too much or you are sad too much or you corner yourself too much, then if will bring you grief and then it will give you diabetes. It will be a very different situation. If you are very angry and you are holding it in and holding it in, it will give you cancer That's where men die fast. Relax. Never start a fight with a wife or woman—learn from this preacher today.

Anything can happen to you. Its not that it will always be right, it's not that it will always be wrong, just understand what is happening to you. If you do not have flexibility, if you are angry or full of grief and insecurity, you know what you lose? You lose your security, you lose your flexibility, you lose everything; insecurity is very essential. When you find yourself insecure, you try to be secure, you understand? You want to be secure if you are afraid; because everything has a polarity, So, you must use your common sense, your sensual sixth sense to grow out of it But if you don't even know where her "buts" are, you are in damn trouble. See that everything that goes on between you and any person doesn't have any negative thought of your own. We will work that out right now, to get it out of your system for a few minutes and you will be fine.