to build his domain, how can he remain noble, spontaneous?
Yogi Bhajan: Very, very simple, my wife knows what I am doing and my children know what I am doing and if they come in the way, I will bulldoze it.
No nonsense. Man is not afraid of losses nor is he afraid of greedy gains. You know, I have built this whole domain. When I came to America, first thing I wanted to do is put all the businesses, which I started, not in my name. Then I fought the point of paying all the ordinary business taxes, but that's why I paid that tax so the profit would not come to me, profit will go to the dharma. So, I set up a president and I set up the businesses, and I set up everything for it. Because I want my children to get what I think is right, but those who have worked with me and sweat and given their life and blood for it, must have, in the long run, the ownership. From them will grow the other people, they will have it and on and on; it's nothing personal. What price I have to pay for it, I don't give two hoots.
Mission is mission and that's a man, but my manners are very polite. I just do what is called justice. When I die, they will get their portion, other portion will go to the dharma, and those who work with me, day and night for 20 hours, for the past 25 years, shall have the ownership. Those who have shown their back and said, "screw you" and all that, they will get the news. Don't worry about it. If you are very straight, you are very straight. You should never be late to be straight. That’s man's biggest fault. But if your wife says, "you have two jobs," and you say, "yes, I have two jobs just to provide all this," and then she finds out there is a girlfriend, then is the tragedy. It is not that I am not straight, but I have lawsuits and I have been put through themill. But it doesn't matter, what can I do? It comes with the territory.
Suppose you are going to Saudi Arabia and they do not allow women. Tell your wife, this is the salary, this is the job, I am going there, I promise you nothing but that I will be your man. That's all—not more than that lesson. But if you find I am not your man, you just tell me; if I find you are not my woman, I will tell you. Relationship will never break. I went through this hell for 28 years, doesn't matter. Who cares? Die by the dozen, but don't kill your honor and don't drag down your grace and don't barter with your courage. Take a stand, take a stand! You don't have to yell and scream to take a stand, just say, "I feel this is right,” or "I feel this is wrong."
Men must speak politely—that's the main thing—and speak with a lot of romance. Dance through the words, start whistling, start singing, start catering, start looking at her eyes, you know, "when I met you at the railway station, remember, we were in the general compartment." My God, even your eyes can't believe it sometimes. Then soon enough, they become bigger and bigger and bigger.
Now I can see clearly what I've fallen into—wow. Woman is done. Don't fuck a woman; cook a woman with the fire of romance. Just romance her, and cook her with the fire of romance.
There isa man, afriend of mine, I asked him today, "How are you doing?" Inthe past six years, he has not had intercourse once, because he. doesn't want to. He appreciates her and at night he talks to her so much, but after a few minutes, he is snoring. The next morning, he says, "I am sorry, I was tired, I slept. No, no tomorrow, another day will come, don't worry about it." But the fact is that he doesn't want it. It is not that she doesn't want it or he doesn't want it, but that in the past so many years, he has been unable to know that he doesn't really want it.
Never, ever, as a man, in the presence of your woman, nibble at any moment, participate in cheap jokes or try to look in wonder.
You are poor or rich, that doesn't mean anything; or you have good character or you have loose character, that doesn't matter; a woman has a sensory system to choose a mate. It's just like the whole world: strongest is best. It's a genetic thing, every woman in her caliber and psyche, shall choose. I don't do it anymore, in the old days, I can see two people then say, "go, get married, you will be fine." Psyche meets. Anything else? You can ask me your question, so you can go from here satisfied because we only have three or four days together and we must do it right.
Student: Sir, before a baby is born, does it know that it's going to be aborted? If a baby is going to be aborted, before incarnation, do they know it is going to be aborted?
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Yogi Bhajan: That's the theory of karma. Some children |
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come, never to be born. Some children come and give |
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a message and leave the grief. There is one woman, 18 |
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years ago, she was pregnant and she aborted the child; |
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she'is still lamenting and crying today. The doctor and the |
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psychologist and psychiatrist say that if she relaxes, she |
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may conceive again, but she is unable to relax. Children |
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happen, that's why there is a marginal gift of 120 days. |
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You build a house, then you move in. That's why, a child is |
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built and after that 120 days, the soul moves in. That's why |
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