Man to Man

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Occasionally, you may be surprised to see me walking with a walking stick. It is only an indication of the conditions of law and order in the United States. It is not an indication of my health. I think all of us should have very fashionable, very strong, very beautiful walking sticks. A walking stick will keep a knife at least four feet away from your ribs. In Germany I saw a very fine walking stick. It had a handle of horn that was very beautifully done. It was called a hunter's stick. I thinkthat if you have that stick and the other person has a gun, chances are you will win and he will lose. In spite of the fact that we don't understand it ourselves, we are soon to enter 1984. The years 1984 to 1988 are a very special time. You may need that stick.

We have come to talk about that reality, about that beauty, about that truth that you have never believed. You realize that nobody can create anybody like you. Forget about creating you. If you get damaged, you cannot even be repaired perfectly. You’are who you are. Ultimately it gives you a chance to prove that you are created by the Perfect God, the Infinite God. We coined the word God because as we started looking into the depth of our own self, we started feeling, very honestly, that each one of us is special in his own right. However, you don't believe it. You know it. But you don't believe it. Your behavior doesn't reflect your knowledge. You know it but you don't behave as if you believe it.

Your creative nature is known to you. Your destructive nature is known to you. Your weaknesses ate known to you. Your strengths are known to you. You want to win but you lose. Your only problem on this planet is boredom. If you learn how to conquer your boredom, you can conquer all the environments of your life and life will be very pleasant.

Let us take a closer look at this boredom. You know so much about yourself that you think you are the world's wisest person. If anyone tells you anything about wisdom, you say, "Well, wait a minute. I already know that." I agree with you that you are wise. You are very wise. I have no doubt about it. However, you are not wise in following your intuition. You use that very wisdom to follow your emotions. You insist on following your commotions.

Some time in your life, you must have met a person with whom you simply could not communicate. It's like talking to a wall. The person is so rough that you feel he is a super idiot. Emotional trauma has taken over the personal personality of that person. Intuition, logic, and reason have no place in him. When this happens to you, you think that you cannot be rich, you cannot be happy, you cannot

be great. Forget it. I am telling you that you are born to succeed. You are born to enjoy. •

You grow, you have been growing and you shall continue to grow. Nobody can take that away from you. It is true even to the extent that when this body dies, you will still grow out of it. There is no such thing as death. You were alive before this body. You will be alive after this body. Something came into a cylinder and something will go out of that cylinder, Within the time that you are in the cylinder called body, you will experience a lot of emotions and a lot of intuitions, Often you go toward your emotions and commotions. But your system of intuition is the source of your happiness. It is the source of your victory. It is the source that can make you invincible,

One thing always surprises me. You always want to look beautiful but never to yourself. That is an amazing phenomenon. You never want to look beautiful to yourself, You never want to look intelligent to yourself. You never want to look confident to yourself. You never want to look powerful to yourself. It is important to you that you make impressions on others. Yet there is nothing which you yourself choose to; relate to within yourself; but you need to relate to everything about you to yourself,

Somebody once said to me, "You've got a lot of students."

| said, "Not a lot. I could have had many, many students. I could have had a lot of students."

"What went wrong?"

| said, "The problem is that I teach people to be teachers; therefore, I couldn't get students. I make teachers. I can get people. Spiritual masters can attract people. Saints and holy men can do this too. It's very easy, but I make teachers. It's a workshop, a factory. When the goods in a factory are completed, they are ready to go out. That is my approach."

Each one of you, being the creativity of God, and having the faculty of intuition, must be wonderful. Otherwise you cannot live. But there is something you do not realize. I am going to tell you what it is. I will proceed very slowly because I want you to take the information inside and believe it: You are not here to experience life. Earth is not the experience of life. Earth is the experience of death. You will be Shocked to know that. You have been told differently. You have been told that Earth is the experience of life—that is wrong from the beginning. Life is a continuous factor. Earth is a flow of that life. You come to Earth to flow,

The mistake ydu commit, the brainwashing that you received (and you have been damaged from the beginning) is that you don't use your intuition, You have a memory so you remember yesterday. You have strength so you act today. But because you don't use your intuition, you cannot compute tomorrow. This is your behavior:

"Hey, who are you?"

"What do you mean. -Hey, who are you?' Why don't you speak politely to me?"

"Ill speak to you however I want." "Why you idiot, you so-and-so

Inthe end, you fight it out because today is to act. When you use your intuition, you are aware that tomorrow is another day. Tomorrow we will meet again. Be polite today so that as you look to tomorrow you may smile at each other. Intuition will never let you have a war. It can never allow you to fight You don't need quarrels. 1 want you to understand how foolish it is. If I feel, "I'm going to grab from him," and I grab from him, then somebody will grab from me. Eventually this whole world will become a grabbing world.

You are involved in passion. You believe in victory through passion. There's no such thing as victory through passion. Victory is through intuition. You are mortal, but there is an immortal in you. You are immortal, but the body is mortal. Every one of you has a given intelligence. If the given intelligence is combined .with developed intuition, given intelligence and given intuition are developed together, If intuition is developed, intelligence is there. You are victorious. You are successful. Nobody can ever do any harm to you.

Gurmat is the Guru's way. Gurmat means "the churned out, classified as known, everlasting, Infinite Truth." In the West we say patience pays and that tolerance is a virtue, but in the oriental language of spirituality it is called santokh— satisfaction, .eternal 'satisfaction. I know that there are some things that you are impatient about that are bothering you. You have a career and you are worried because the economic unemployment of America is affecting certain areas. Certain shifting and certain changes have to take place. Have patience and you will have santokh.

1have guided people who are here and who have worked for 3HO into certain industries that will be the last to be hit. That's why there is so little unemployment in the 3HO family relative to the nation at large. Unemployment has

not hit us because we are very flexible, because we are a very special type of people, We believe in our intelligence and our intuition. When we put intelligence and intuition together, two and two made four to us, and we decided to go into those industries that would give us self-respect— productivity through self-respect. With this approach we can never be unemployed.

If somebody is a carpenter, somebody is a carpenter. If he is a building contractor, he is a building contractor. But if you are a building contractor and times get hard, you can work, you can work as a carpenter. If you are a carpenter, you do something else. In this world, the honorable thing

is to work for the honor of doing the labor, not doing the labor to achieve status and honor. All work is honorable, keerth karni.

The quality of a man who invests fast and wants to become rich fast is very shallow. Do you build goodwill or do you build greed? You build your insecurity. You should be deep-rooted, not emotional. You should be intelligent. A major problem is that you are not what you think you are. Some of you actually feel that your profession determines your status. You are never judged by your profession. You are judged by your intuition.

You are judged by how intuitively intelligent you are. Your profession, your money, your cars, your home, your everything, only gives you a very temporary, shallow edge. There is no depth in it. The greatest weakness that men have is that they do not intuitively work for their tomorrow.

A woman can be emotional because she has 16 times greater intelligence than you have. She has this God-given intelligence because she is to bear children; plus she has to raise them. Woman, as an institution, is prepared to bear four children. Four times four is 16, so she has 16 times your intelligence.

Your goal is to be successful as you. This establishes your character and your victory. A career is part of it, money is part of it, a home is part of it, but if you are not you, you will have only parts. You will never be whole. It is like a wonderful body without a brain. The muscles are strong, the fingers are lovely, the nails are marvelous, body is like a crystal; but if there is no brain what are you going to do with that body? Or consider the person who is beautiful, intelligent, and perfect, but obnoxious. Tell me, how long can you deal with an obnoxious person? Or, so-and-so is great, but, my God, is he shaky. Think about it.

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Life is a flow of life is a flow of life is a flow of life. You know this is reality. You know that you have not created yourself. You have been created by God and everything is totally, confirmedly, positively yours. You don't believe in that reality because you are not using your intuition. You are totally emotional. God wants you to have acareer where you can be penetrating, where you have a domain, where you can give people more than what they have.

It is not possiblefor people of intelligence, normal intelligence who have normal intuition, too, to live in isolation. How many of you would like to live by yourselves?

Have your little home, little wife, little children, little sports car, little boat, little airplane? There are so many little things: little television, little walkie-talkie, little workshop, little tool shop, little machine shop by the side, little garden and gardener, chauffeur and all that stuff. You all have it.

You must realize that the strength in

you is you. The material world around you is to supplement your strength or to complement your strength; it is not your strength. You will say, "I know it"; you will say, "That is right," but you don't believe it. You don't believe this earth is Earth. You do not believe this earth is Earth and you are you. They are fundamentally wrong interactions. That’s why your life sometimes becomes miserable. That's why there is boredom in your life.

There's boredom in people's lives because they don't have purpose. It is a very simple, psychological answer. The root cause of boredom is lack of motivation. Plus the boredom in your lives is a lack of your own intuition to share with others. You don't trust your own soul. Fortunately, the soul doesn't need your trust to go on. When you do not use your intuition to serve others, to be with others, to establish relationships with others, it doesn't matter how much wealth or security you have, you'll be bored to death.

Besides boredom, you claim to get burned out. You never get burned out; your ego gets burned out. Your problem is that you want to achieve, and then, when you do achieve, you do not know what to achieve next. When you do not become a part of the flow of life and life does not become a part of your flow, you split yourself and separation takes place.

When I came to the United States, I said that I didn't want students. I wanted teachers. I have to produce teachers. It's an endless job. I'll never be bored. I'll never be burned out either. I'm very intelligent. I said, I'll create teachers. If I get students, then I've got students. Then what? Do I sit down, close my eyes, and say, "Bless you. Everything is going to be all right. Meditate. Pray for you. Thank you"? You'll be bored to death. Besides, you yourself could sit on a chair

and say, " Bless you. Pray for you. It’s going to work out fine. Meditate.'' Why would you need me?

Do you know why you need me? Many of you love me very much. 1know that. Many of you need me very badly. Have you ever considered the reason? It is because I have one wonderful attribute. You may do many wonderful things for me, but you can never satisfy me. My appetite has no bottom. If the word challenge exists, then my name should have been Siri Singh Sahib Bhai Sahib Challenge Singh Khalsa. People sometimes write letters to me. They

claim that they don't find any challenge in life. I say that it is a challenge not to find a challenge. There is a challenge in everything. Are you so worthless that there is no challenge for you? No. The problem of boredom is that you do not use your intuition. You use your ego. The ego is very confining and the ego will limit you. However, you can shape your ego very well.

Whether you are rich or poor neither involves nor solves who you are. You think that if you are rich, everybody will respect you. You think that if you drive a Cadillac, people will think you are rich. When I take an evening walk, I think I am very rich. Everybody drives Cadillacs, but very few people take a brisk walk. Very few people go on a picnic and don't get drunk. When I go on a picnic and don't get drunk, I think I am very rich. Richness is how much of yourself you achieve. Richness is not how much you have amassed around you—that's a weight.

Once there was a king who slept on a bed of flowers. Each day about a hundred pounds of flowers of different colors and kinds would be made into a bed for him. He had a very special maid who would make that bed and decorate it every day. One day, she thought, "The king sleeps on a bed of flowers every day. I wonder how it feels.” That day, after finishing the basic decoration perfectly, she just got onto it and closed her eyes. The breeze came and the fragrance of the flowers came, and she went deeply to sleep. She slept for a long time. The king came into his chamber and was outraged to see his maid sleeping on his bed. He picked up a stick and started beating her left and right.

Although she was beaten mercilessly, the maid began to laugh among her cries of pain. When his rage was spent and he had calmed himself to an ordinary anger, the king said, "Tell me why you were laughing or I'll behead you." She began to laugh and he picked up his cane again. She muffled her laughter and said, "Do you want to know the truth?" He said, "Yes." She said, "I slept for a few hours on this bed of roses and you beat the heck out of me. Now I am wondering about the one who sleeps here every day. What will happen to him? Although I am in pain, I am trying to understand what kind of cursed situation is this? I know that I intruded

on your privacy and that I didn't do my job properly, but what a punishment! Since you have been sleeping on this bed for many years and since I have been making it every day for you, I wonder what will happen to you?"

I know what kind of thoughts of vengeance and negativity come to me when I become emotional and experience the pain of that, but I am asking those of

you who live by the emotional self, where are you going? The credibility within you is your credibility as a man. What you want on the Earth, what you want as a man, is to be recognized as a man. Understand that. The purpose behind all the wealth you are using, all the status you are using, all the emotions you are using, all the commotions you are using is that you want to be recognized as a

man. Basically, if people don't trust you, doesn't matter who you are, you have no value and no influence. Do you understand? As a male you have to understand that you will only be recognized as a man if you are trusted. If you don't gain the trust of the people to whom you relate, it doesn't matter who you are, or what you possess, or what you think you can influence, you have nothing to commend you as a man. So how can you be trusted? Your word must be everlasting, for your word to be final, you must be in touch with your intuition. Your virtue is in your intuition, not in your emotion.

Sometimes people ask me, "What about your feelings?" Those feelings are waves; they are not trade winds. A ship does not move because of the waves; a ship moves because of the trade winds. Intuition is your trade wind. You don't understand intuition; that is why you are unable to see opportunities and that is why you always feel that you are at fault in your own life, in your own realm of flow. Intuition is the knowledge of tomorrow, of the next minute, the next hour, the next day, next year, next life. Intuitively you should be able to identify your next life. Not only are you unable to do this, you have not even thought about it.

Religion has been on this Earth for thousands of years, and I am one of the religious persons, yet her^, among our congregation, there is not one who has a thought about his tomorrow—what a failure. Yesterday has gone to memory. Today is acting. Today also invites tomorrow. The tomorrow comes from your life's flow. Yesterday is a part of your life's flow, today your life is flowing, and tomorrow comes from your life's flow today. Basically there is nothing beyond life's flow. Your life's flow on Earth comes from Infinity and goes into Infinity.

Never multiply yourself with time and space. That is the secret of happiness. You will always change. I am depressed now. I was not depressed yesterday and I shall

not be depressed tomorrow. Today's depression is not mine, it just came. It's like saying, Today it rained. You let your emotions get in the way of intuition. Emotions and commotions are caught by the ego, and whatever is caught by the ego, in that moment, is perceived by you to be the reality forever. There is no such thing as a reality forever. There is only the reality of that particular time, the reality

of that particular space. Whatever the reality of that time and that space may be, it is on you but it is not you. Can you separate it?

The power of poverty is not you. The power of poverty may be on you like a cloud, like a storm, like a twister. Basically you have to understand one fundamental thing: You are not time and you are not space. You are passing through time and space. Time

and space are not reality, they are an orbit. Time and space provide an orbit. It is like a railway through which your brain goes. All those curvatures, those highs and lows are part of the track. The railroad track is a part of the railroad company, but it is not the company. Time and space are not life. If you understand this, I can bet that tomorrow, the day after tomorrow and thereafter, you'll be healthy, happy, holy and prosperous. You will start using automatic intuition, other people's intelligence (OPI) and other people's money (OPM). You will start growing and growing and growing. You are not going to experience death. The word death has connotations that confuse what it really is. The word death represents a fearful end to us. It does not represent an exit, which is what it really is.

I want to give you another lift. I want you to know that depression is an emotional lull. You can get out of depression right on the spot. If you are depressed, think of the evening star. I will teach you a kriya for meditating on the evening star.

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You are sitting in a posture that locks you to the magnetic field of your body. This gives you the power to transfer yourself into the subtle body and the subtle body gives you the power to walk on the beam of light. It is possible that your body may go through certain changes because you are getting lighter and lighter. Don’t move your body. Let your nervous system balance out. Bring your body to a calm stillness, keep a firm attitude and keep the imagery going.

See that beautiful bright evening light'shining in the middle of the evening sky. Because this evening star is Venus which represents love and the heart, the huge beam of light that comes from it hits your heart, making a pathway like a road on which you can walk to the star.

Now as you walk step by step and you seethe bright light, intersect that light with this mantra, “I am beautiful. I am light." Beauty and light connect. Connect beauty and light. The only way to get rid of depression permanently is to connect beauty and light. Chant aloud. Pronounce. Hold the image and connect that light. Chant aloud. Pronounce. Hold the image and connect that light. Don’t let go of the imagery of that blue sky and that bright star. Don’t forget to walk up the beam of light.

Please do all these complicated things in a very simple way. Then pronounce, as though you were announcing to the whole world, “ I am beautiful, 1am light.”

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To create success as a human being, you must know how you talk, why you talk, when you talk, and what you talk. You must know what you are conveying. You believe that you can say things and get away with it. If you are angry, you want to talk angrily. If you are unhappy, you want to

you, but I am angry. I am not in a position to tell you why at this time, but I'll talk to you

later." At least in this way you protect your personality, and you don't communicate your anger. The result of this kind of communication is that the other person will always trust you.

Communication is personality. "C" is "P." Communication is not mood. Everybody has been taught to talk ineffectively. Whenever you talk, communicate. Learn this—this is all you have to practice and understand. When you communicate, you communicate your personality. If you are an honest person, communicate that honesty. If you are a spiritual person, communicate your success. But never communicate through the channel of mood. Mood is never good. Even good mood is no good. This is because when you are in a good mood you will say things that in a neutral mood you would not mean, and it will come back

When people invite you over, they ask you to have a drink. They give you wine or some alcohol. Have you ever considered why people are willing to spend $10 or $20 on you as soon as you walk through their door? They want to get you a little loose. If you are a little loose, you will loosen your foundation. That will create a certain mood. Your mood is one

aspect of your life that can be your own worst enemy. If your mood comes first, you can never be happy. You will never enjoy life.

Mood is no good. Mood is no good at all. Even good mood is no good at all. It will overextend you. Convey neither good nor bad mood. Convey yourself, your personality;

when personality is communicated, it becomes Self. Self is divinity, positivity, creativity, success, and influence. Influence comes to you when you communicate, "I am myself. You are yourself. I want myself to know yourself and yourself to know myself." I don't care about your damn

mood! Understand this once and for all. I don't want your mood to be the friend of my mood. Moods are moods, they are

C(M n e v e r not friends. "I love you (because I'm in a good mood)." Who are you? Who are we dealing with? Who is dealing with whom? Actually, nobody is dealing with anybody, because there's no relationship. There's no mutual trust.

Life is a mutual trust. Success comes when you create a real relationship of mutual trust. Success is equal to mutual trust. Mutual trust has nothing to do with mood. Just let the mood go. Say it: Moooooood. Again: Moooooooooood. Say it enough that you will remember it. Understand that as you say it, you are becoming lighter. You need to lighten up your mood because it has a very heavy effect on your personality. It makesyou crazy. Moodiness is crazy. Anyone, whether he is a millionaire or a pauper, who deals with life through mood is guaranteed to be unhappy.

Somebody once wrote me a letter. It was so heavy that the post office had to bind it. The envelope tore and the whole thing broke from the weight. When I got it, I couldn't believe that I was going to have to read it. I called the person. I

You are a human being. You have a personality. You have a Self. Personality and Self—you are a personality and a Self. The Self is always for you and you are for your Self. If your mood comes in-between you and your Self, you are gone. It is no good. When mood comes between you and your Self, it ruins your relationship—your working relationship, your friendship, your chances of happiness and your chances of success.

The consequences of mood are even greater than you imagine, This is because although mood is temporary, the damage of mood is permanent. One damage, two damages, five damages; twenty damages,

until finally the self becomes totally sore, bleeding, and sick.

You are all wise, you are all intelligent, you. are all intuitive* there is no dearth of that, if somebody tells me l am making you wise,! know the person is moody, How do you get a person out of a mood? First, don't speak

loudly and harshly. Your personality is beautiful so you should speak beautifully. Be careful of your tone. A harsh tone has the effect of a machine gun at your ear: fire! fire! fire! rat-a-tat-tat! Never, ever speak like that. Second, never say what you need to say right away. Introduce yourself, "May I have your attention?" "Would you please give me a- minute?" You need to break your approach into three parts: Speak moderately, neither too loud nor too low; introduce yourself; then say what you have to say. Say it to communicate, not to gain an effect or a specific outcome.

The biggest communication blunder that you make is communicating for effect. This comes from your moodiness. When you open communication that way, the other person communicates to reject. You communicate to affect; the other person communicates to reject. That's why life is such a hassle for you. No matter how weak the other person is, when you communicate to

gain an effect, he feels that you are looking for a certain response, he thinks you want something from him. When this happens, he becomes defensive and rejects you. The right of self-defense is ingrained in every individual, so speak moderately and then, if you want to win, speak suggestively: I could say, "Would you please listen to me? If ail of us can understand our own abilities and pool them together, we can have a good day tomorrow." Or, I can say, "Hey, you bunch of idiots, let's pool our strength and get going."

It's the same thing. It is absolutely the same thing. But if I am direct, three people are going to say, "Sir, what you say is right, but we have our own plans for tomorrow."

Nobody is a freak, but we freak everybody out when we are direct. The reaction is not to what we say, but how we say it. Be suggestive; speak suggestively.

"I think we can be successful." "How?"

"it's really not difficult at all," "Well, what do you want to say?" "Not anything much,"

"Well, what is it?"

"Ah, I have a .very’ wonderful perfect idea of success. It

just came to me."

"What the hell are you talking about?"

Tm not talking about hell or heaven. I'm talking about success right here on Earth."

"Talk!"

"Well, I'm not sure you will like my ideas." "Try it!"

"Well, wait a minute, it's not "Just tell me. I'll do it!"

"Weil, no. No, just understand that ... Aren't we friends?"

"Yeah. Come on!" "Do you think you can understand?" "Hey, man, come out with it!"

"No. We'll go for a walk tomorrow, and then we'll talk it out."

You can appreciate what is being done. One person is trying to establish a contact of the Self. When you talk for effect, this is the sound you make: "Yap, yap, yap, yap, yap." This yapping sound upsets the balance in the middle ear. It sounds as if a duck is quacking in your ear. Then the brain sends the signal, "Get rid of that duck." The Chinese cook it. The Indians boil it. The British steam it. Duck is duck. It doesn't matter how wonderful you are, you are a human being and not a duck. I'm giving you practical, positive, suggestive advice. If you hurt my middle ear, do you think I will give you kisses in return? If you want to be successful, take my advice: Use a moderate tone of voice,

introduce yourself, speak suggestively.

Something else you will need is confidence. I am always right, but still I ask you, "Am I right?" Sometimes I say I am wrong. It is wrong for me to say" I am wrong", because I am always right, but still I say it, It gives nothing to me, but it gives you confidence. Confidence is a secret of success. Not my confidence, your confidence. My selfconfidence doesn't mean athing to me. It is your confidence in me that is important. In any situation, it is not your self-confidence

that is important; it is the other person's confidence in you and your confidence in him. That's what is important.

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Mudra: Put your left hand over your Heart Center. Put your right hand out, palm to palm, with your partner. As you speak, touch hands with your partner. When­ ever you speak, as the lips move, the hands must create the same effect. Let the movement of your hands reflect the movement of your lips and the movement of your conversation. Say good things. Communicate and create companionship. Practice, practice for the experience.

Part II

Now sit in Easy Pose and Repeat after the Teacher.

“I shall never transport my mood.”

“I shall never transport my mood.”

“I shall never transport my mood.” “My mood is not me.”

"My mood is not me.”

“My mood is not me.”

“I shall never transport my mood.” “My mood is not me.”

"My feelings are my feelings.”

“I will deal with my feelings myself."

“I will transport myself to deal with other selves."

“I will not transport my feelings to deal with other feelings”

“I need harmony” "Not clash.”

"I shall not be rash and transport my mood.”

“Mood is no good.”

“Mood is mood.”

"Mood is no good.” “Mood is mood.”

“I am bright and beautiful.” “I am bright and beautiful.” “I am bright and beautiful.”

To end: Now assess yourself. Go inside and assess your gains, feel it, and understand your ability to communicate.

Comments: From the minute you start talking there needs to be a range— improvement, dis-improvement, satisfaction, dissatisfaction— in your communication style. This exercise is meant to benefit your communica­ tion style.

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