Man to Man

Today 1sit among you as a man and I understand that if I share with you something that can in my eyes make you a man, I shall carry the day. Otherwise, neither my tomorrow nor yours will be good. What we are heading toward is a very unpeaceful, untranquil and dramatic situation. I am not against therapy, but life cannot become therapy. I don't believe that my life should be based on any therapy, no matter what I have paid for it. When therapy is needed I am willing to go for it If medicine is needed I am willing to go for it. But to admit to myself that I am sick forever, I am a basket case forever, I need therapy forever, or to go through therapy just as a social thing, to let people know that I have somebody to talk to. I am willing to admit that I am not perfect, but I am not willing to admit that I am sick for all time, for all purposes, yet some of you are willingly declaring this. You are trying to tell everybody in the world that it is all right to be sick for a while but you are declaring to the world that it's all right to be sick all the time. That is not acceptable.

I am willing to agree that you didn't get parental care. I am willing to agree you didn't get parental security, I am willing to agree your wife is bitchy, I am willing to agree your neighbors are no good. I am willing to agree to anything you want me to agree to; but I am not willing to agree that all these pressures are responsible for you not being you—that I am not willing to agree to. So we are going to have a battle today, because I cannot accept that God didn't make you in His own image. And I do not want to accept that God could make you better than you are. .I am convinced that each one of you is best in your own right. If we got messed up or goofed up, that can be handled. But the classic question here is a simple confrontation between you and you, as a Self, which you are very scared

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whatever you are gracefully. As a man, you have to learn this most fundamental fact; you have to carry yourself.

You are a man, all right? Whether you have a long sexual organ or a small sexual organ, whether you are phobic or you are a maniac, whether your muscles are good or not, whether you ejaculate fast or not, vvhether you are dumb or silly, or whether you know your own self-condemnation or not, I am not looking into it. What I am trying to explain to you is that these things are not things at all. For every man, what I am going to share with you is how to understand that you are a man. You cannot become female. You may try, I mean to say, medically, it is possible. I am not saying it is not possible, I am not challenging the theory. I mean to say, you want to be a female, it is fine; you want to be a male, it is fine. You want to condemn yourself or you don't want to condemn yourself, that's fine, too. But God, don't you understand one thing? Now you’ve got it—that pound of meat hanging between your legs-what you do with it is your problem, not mine.

But that does not decide the life entirely, that's just one of the chakras. It's called the Second Chakra. You have a situation, bad and good; that's the First Chakra. You have fear and anxiety and the power to be; that's the Third Chakra. You have compassion and you want to give, or you are afraid to give, that's the Fourth Chakra. You want to speak, or you cannot speak, that's the Fifth Chakra. You want to be conscious, but you are not conscious, that is the Sixth Chakra. You want to know and you don't know, that is the Seventh Chakra. Finally, you want to be or not to be, that's the Eighth Chakra.

So every chakra has a polarity and each chakra makes you what you are; but the fact is, you are-a human being and you have to carry yourself gracefully. It is not enough to be a man. You are not only to be a man but also to deliver yourself in the style of a man. It is the delivery of you, in a manly style, which is more important than your being a man, or you being phobic, you being neurotic, you being muscular, you being skinny, you being nervous, you being macho, or you being any and all of those qualities. Sand is red, green, yellow, pink or white; but sand is still sand. What you want to do with it, how you want to deliver it, which truck will carry it and which building will be built out of it, that's a different story. It is not enough to be a man that God made. Right?

Let us accept our elementary identity. That we are men is established, though you have, some doubt about it, right? You even doubt that you are a man—that we will handle later. Let us read this. [Editor's Note: Yogi Bhajan has one

of his secretaries/-a woman, come and read■a summary from the men's questionnaires, completed earlier in the course.]

Student; Men seem to define themselves . this is based on the papers? (Students laugh)

Yogi Bhajan: Go ahead.

Student; Men seem to define themselves by how big or small their sex organ is; whether a woman wants him sexually or whether they wantawoman; how successful they are in work; and whether they are accepted in the social group. Using this criterion, most men are left feeling very insecure and doubting themselves. No one identifies their Self through the experience of their soul. They live in such pain, holding on to the Western definitions of the masculine or manliness.

The following are a few examples of men's thinking regarding their identity: little boys touching each other's genitals resulting in guilt or questioning whether they are homosexual; the social pecking order around me dictated subservience, abuse and humiliation; almost impossible for me to do anything but conform to peer pressure; I want to be great and don't feel like I am; I look at Playboy magazine and masturbate; I had sex three times a day; throughout most of my life people have fold me I am no good*

Other issues were mother phobias. For example, I developed temper tantrums, became afraid of leaving my mother at home, but wasn't comfortable with her either; difficult time controlling ejaculation; rape-type sexual fantasies; scared to make it with a girl, mother's way to keep me by her side. Or, father phobias, for example, father was very emotional, dishonest and unreliable, used to yell and scream, wake me up in the middle of the night; I became afraid of men and afraid of fighting; father never beat me, but threatened with it a lot; my father was teaching me to tie my shoes and my father became very angry because I didn't get it

Fear of success: My strong perseverance and determination was directed at my self-destruction; I lacked power to stay with a project or process, I am afraid to be the whole and powerful being I could be; I seem to do things that make me look bad; could not stick to something and do my best with it; I hate wealthy people but want to be wealthy, if I become wealthy will I hate myself?

(Students laugh)

Fear of failure: Great potential, average performance; afraid to demonstrate skills in group situations.

your wife. Reality is that you must acknowledge you are a

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Man To M a n

Meditation to Realize the Reality of a M a n

September 21, 1985

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Posture: Sit in a meditative posture

Eyes: Closed

Mudra: None specified

Mantra: I am a man, I am good.

I .Repeat the mantra aloud three times and then meditate in silence on this thought:

I am a man, I am good.

As you meditate on the mantra, listen to the visualization: “Cross the physical level and go into Infinity on one word, one line: I am a man, I am good, I am a man. I am good, 1am a man, I am good, I am a man, I am good. Create self-hypnosis. Tranquilize, go into your depth, repeat it, repeat it, repeat it, arid totally go into the self­ hypnotic state— every human has that right. Use just this one line: I am a man, I am good. Check your feeling, how honest are you about it? Work it out. Sit down and concentrate. Hypnotize yourself in this. Hypnotize. Go to sleep on this thought: I am a man, I am good.

“This is a priceless moment when you can assert yourself and bring yourself into a self-hypnotic state. Go into your deep self. Touch your soul. Touch your own Sun, your own light, your own soul. Don’t let your mind create a game of you. Go into your depth. Your strength is in your life, your life is in your soul, and your power lies in your radiant body, the tenth body where your presence should work. When you present yourself before somebody, they say, Wow! The whole world should see light around you. Concentrate deeply on the self-hypnotic principle and bring your light out and repeat this mantra until you feel that stability: I am a man, I am good.

(6 Minutes)

“Begin to create a circle of light around you. Create a powerful circle of light around you. Go to sleep with the strength of this thought that you are a bright shining light. You are a man, you are a man, you are good, and you are surrounded by light. Heal yourself of any dark spot. You have to concentrate on your good, how good you are. Therefore, recite this again and again: I am a man, I am good, I am lig h t.” (3 Minutes)

2. Stand and repeat the mantra together: I am a man, I am good, I am lig h t. Repeat it several times until you experience it. In a class situation, have individual volunteers stand up and repeat the mantra and then

explain what it means to them. What does it mean to be a man, to be good, to be the light? For individual meditation, state it just for yourself. Speak loudly, from your Navel Point. Declare yourself a man.

3. In the seated posture, touch the tip of the tongue with your upper palate. Do not let them separate.

Repeat the mantra: I am a man, I am good. I am light.

3 Minutes

Comments; If you keep the upper palate and the tongue together, whatever you speak you will hear. It will penetrate like a lance, right through you. You won’t forget it.

To End: Inhale and relax. Take care of your face, your hands, relax your body. Feel good.

Part II

Mantra: I am bom to succeed, success is my elementary right.

1.Repeat aloud, say it loud and clear.

2.Now put the tongue on the upper palate and speak it.

3.Speak normally: I am born to succeed, success is my elementary right. Repeat 3X

4.Now put the tongue on the upper palate, fix it there and say it: I am born to succeed, success is my elementary right. Repeat 3X

Note: Notice the difference between the two voices. Do you understand the difference of normal speaking and speaking with the tongue on the upper palate? That speaking goes right into the brain, the other doesn’t. When you touch the tongue and pressurize the hypothalamus through the meridian point and the upper palate and you create this sound, you become that sound. You become that being.

Comments:-Tell your children. Each man is born to succeed. Your success does not lie in how good you are in bed, your success does not lie in how rich or poor you are, your success does not lie in how much money you have or don't have, your success does not lie in how educated or uneducated you are. Your success lies in how jubilant, radiant and self-confident you are. Success is your birthright. Not to succeed is your creative habit, to succeed is your elementary desire and confirmed gift. Every man is born to succeed. Otherwise, it is an insult to God. You don't have to have prayer, you don’t have to have religion, you don’t need anything. Your elementary birthright is success. As a man you must succeed. You are born in the image of the Infinite, in the image of God. And there are ten trillion Gods in you. Every cell of you is a part of God. It’s pranic Shakti. Therefore you cannot fail. You fail because you forget that success is your elementary right. Success is not your secondary right, success is your elementary right.

man—and even that is not enough. That's not enough. To acknowledge you are a-man is not enough. First, you must acknowledge that you are a man and it is good.

Success is your elementary right. Failure is your secondary right. See the difference? It gives you a knot in

your stomach to say it. If you just feel, just feel it— there is a lot of energy if you just feel it—success is my elementary right. Repeat it.

Students: Success is my elementary right.

Yogi Bhajan: Now you can't play the ego, because if you understand that success is your elementary right and failure is your secondary right, then you will not accept failure. That's where the ego will be helpful. Your own ego, which is otherwise a disaster will be totally helpful in this case. Understand that the will of God, the will of reality, is that each man succeed—each man is born to succeed. Did your mother tell you that?

Students: No.

Yogi Bhajan: Did your father tell you that?

Student: No.

Yogi Bhajan: Did your school tell you that?

Students: No.

Yogi Bhajan: I even didn't tell you that. I have to tell you today, because before today you were not ready to listen. But don't take it away from your children. Tell them. Each man is born to succeed. Say it loud and clear to yourself. I am born to succeed, success is my elementary right. I'll repeat.

Students: I am born to succeed, success is my elementary right.

Don't worry about how you feel about it; it goes right in. When you touch the tongue and apply pressure to the hypothalamus through the meridian point in the upper palate, and you create this sound, you become that sound. You become that being.

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recognize It, because you do not have those eyes. There is bacteria in the water, but you have to have a special lens to see it. God is everywhere, but you have to see It within you, within you—with you. You have to become a lens to understand and see the dance of ten trillion cells, which is

you. As those ten trillion cells can dance in absolute, successful/ total rhythm, absolutely flawless, so you are the most successful manifestation of God. You are the most successful manifestation of God. The greatest tragedy that mankind was given to understand or believe was that you have to find

God. You can never, ever find God. You are God—part of God. And the whole God is with you, behind you and within you. Stop searching for God and start searching to prove that God is your elementary right. Prove that the right to be successful is your elementary right.

Work is not for anything but to prove success. The whole system that is you is geared toward one point: Work to prove success. Not prove to anybody else; but to prove to you. Therefore, work is an experience of self-success. Whenever you work with the attitude or with understanding that work is an experience of self-success, you shall be successful. It is your elementary right. It is God. There is no other God. There is but one God and that is success through the experience of your work. Your work, your experience and your success is a manifestation of you and, within you, of God. It should be your primary achievement, because it's your primary right.

When you choose other things that is where you mess up/ because you are manufactured. Your faculty, your quality, is to succeed. You don't have to worry about being successful. You don't have to hassle to be successful. You just have to flow with the energy of life, just being alive is successful. Just live and once you live, let others live. You will create such goodwill, everything will come to you. Live, let live. Live, let live. Every life, all energy will be with you because

you are a living energy.

Don't kill. That's why in the Bible, one of those Ten Commandments say, thou shall not kill. Once you kill, you can kill yourself, because there is nothing outside of you but you. All is you. All

is the same. There is but one God. There was nothing, there is nothing, and there shall be nothing but you. If you succeed in recognizing you-—in anything—it will become you. If you can see in your hands, all hands, then all hands will become you.

The greatest power of a man is when he stands before another man and he becomes that man. He becomes double, triple, quadruple, ten, twenty, hundred, thousand, million. Merge, merge, merge, merge and flow. A drop of

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Posture: Sit in a comfortable meditative posture.

Mudra: Push the thumbs into the base of the cheek bones. Push in and up.

Eyes: Close the eyes and roll them up to the Brow Point.

Mantra: I am all, all is me.

Put the tongue on the upper palate, just behind the teeth. Keep the tongue on the upper palate as you repeat the mantra: I am all, all is me. I Minute

Maintain the posture, keeping your tongue on the upper palate and pressing the cheek bones with your thumbs. Meditate. Become a pouch of water; dissolve your muscles and your bones. >bur skin is nothing but a pouch of water. Pull your meridians up, concentrate, let the hypothalamus work.

Continue applying pressure and think these thoughts:

“ Because God cannot come to Earth and shake hands with you, God gave you a chance to make you as you. Good and bad, others may think. You are the best. If God could have produced better than you, He would have..

. . It’s Almighty God, He produced you, accept it— and accept it now.”

To End: Now inhale deeply, hold the breath and feel good. 15-30 seconds. Exhale and relax. “God has kissed you on the cheeks, right?” Shake out your hands. Relax.

Comments: Give yourself a chance. Try to understand, in a conscious way, that you can totally eliminate all your neurosis— now. Every other therapy will take about six months to six years and thousands of dollars, and still you may end up nuts. But you yourself can do it this minute. Because you have stimulated the central channel and forced that energy through the hypothalamus; you have activated both the Ida and the Pingala; all you have to do is just understand that you are you. It is a “do-it- yourself” kit. If it is true that you are born in the image of God, if it’s true— first believe. It’s a belief system. Then you are born to succeed. You are not succeeding because you don’t understand that you are born to succeed, it’s your elementary right.

This therapy has been known to mankind for thousands and thousands and thousands of years. People used to heal themselves. Water keeps all levels equal, so neurosis and wisdom will come into equilibrium.

Just understand: there is no God but one God. The only right man has, his primary right, is to be born and to be successful. Failure is your secondary thing.

To be neurotic and unwise is your third. To be emotional—be a yo-yo—is your fourth. Concentrate on your first and then the opportunities will come to you. Where there is a light, alt comes there.

The third project that I am going to take on with you today is fear—fear. What is fear? Oh! Give me a break! Come on, you all know English. What is a fear?

Student: Lack of trust in God.

Yogi Bhajan: Lack of trust in God. That's too philosophical. What is a fear?

Student: Lack of trust in self.

Yogi Bhajan: Lack of trust in your Self, still, what is afear? It's an instinct to protect yourself. Fear is a natural instinct for self-protection against something that you are not sure of. It's automatic. Somebody says, "Boo!" and you blink your eyes; you close your eyes, automatically. The fear of being hurt will make your eyes immediately close, on their own. You can pick up that fear syndrome within the aura, 18 feet both sides. Fear is nothing but a self-protecting device. So if you know, if you understand, that there is nothing to protect, you will not have fear.

What are you protecting against? You are protecting against bad people. Actually, there are no bad people; every person has bad and good within him. If you know how to take the good out of the person and leave the bad with the person, you are the best. What are you afraid of? You are afraid of bad company, right? What is bad company? There is no such thing as bad and good. It's either half and half or 40:60 or 70:30; it's a proportion. Everything is a proportion. It's a ratio in proportion.

What do you have to do with the bees? Take the honey and get away. Yes. If you entangle with the bees you will meet your end. If you are not dead, you come out swollen, at least. You know what I am saying? You want the honey, get the honey, then get away. This is the fear: if I am going to get the honey, I am going to get caught. So what then? Then earn the honey. Don't steal it. What did man do? He created a way for himself to get the honey. He created a fire, built up a lot of smoke and when that big cloud of smoke went into the beehive, the bees fled away, giving man a chance to get the honey. That is what you do; you build up a line of activity; you build up a smoke screen. You build up an identity around you, a diplomacy around you, to cover your fear. This entire build up is to cover your weaknesses.

You cover yourself against your own weaknesses. Never try to cover against your own weaknesses, just try to know your weaknesses and get rid of them. They say, "Drop them in the desert. They will die of thirst." Then you can walk straight.

Whenever you know your weakness . . .

Repeat it.

Students: Whenever you know your

weakness...

Yogi Bhajan: Do not cover it.

Students: Do not cover it.

Yogi Bhajan: Get rid of it.

Students: Get rid of it.

Yogi Bhajan: How does it sound?

Students: Good.

Yogi Bhajan: It's very good.

The time, the money, the energy you waste to cover your weakness, is going to kill you. Listen, you may put a dead man at the bottom of the sea, but he is going to come up. Weakness is weakness, it will come up. Drop it. Whenever there is gangrene, what do they do? They cut it off. Habitual weakness is gangrene. Either cut it or it will kill you. Is that understood? Thou shall not kill; so cut it. There is no choice. Cut it. Cut—you know? You can learn it from Hollywood. When things go wrong, they say, "Cut." They do it, why can't you do it? (Students laugh) Call it yourself—"Cut." If there is a fight between a husband and wife, call "Cut." She says, "What is it?" You say, "That's it. No more movie." Cut.