1) Parents choose career over their children

Firstly, all family members have their obligations; the main obligation of parents is to raise their children properly. It means not only to give them food to eat and a house to live in, but to impart them family and moral values. In the modern society parents are prone to achieve career success and to prove their abilities hence their moral obligations towards their children, all these facts contribute to insufficient rearing and appearance of gaps in parent- children relations. As a result interests of children and parents aren’t contiguous, they live different lives. In such a situation children are in self care, they get in with the wrong crowd, become involved in criminal affairs and so on. After this to restore a connection with children is practically impossible.

2) Parents have life experience but they shouldn’t make children to follow their way of thinking

Secondly, parents have a lot of personal experience and wisdom that can be obtained only from life but parents should understand that making children think parents’ way is impossible. Parents can grumble about anything: the way their children dress or the things their children like or the music their children listen to, but they forgetting that children like adults hate to be criticised by parents at some point or another. These are usually things that offspring are passionate about and mean a lot to them, so most of children don’t take criticism of these things lightly. Things are getting even more difficult when parents start to tease their children about something in particular. In doing so, they unwittingly ostracise teenagers and that give the impression that children are not taken seriously. That will eventually create the gap between generations.

3) Parents insist on choosing career for their children

Thirdly, it will be generally agreed that most fathers want their offspring to adopt the same profession that they themselves or the career that parents hadn’t been able to set up and they want their sons and daughters being followed without giving due weight to the aptitude of the offspring. This causes tension between the elders and the children. The truth is that the younger generation is more intellectually evolved than the preceding one. But the ego of the older people does not permit them to accept this hard truth and they would always like to play the role of the destiny makers of the younger ones.

4) Parents are afraid of children’s mistakes and are always trying to prevent them

Moreover all parents want their children to be happy so they are afraid that mistakes and choices of youth and can influence the whole life of their children. This can provoke a problem when children decide to choose anything from type of clothes and major subjects till career choice but the modern age has a wider field and many times more job opportunities are available to the really deserving candidates. Hence the youth have to become deserving and must walk on the untrodden path to face a cutthroat competition. It won’t be wise to check them in this advance in the right direction because all the mistakes that occurred in this unknowing path would help children to become stronger and wiser. The only way that parents can try to interfere without creating another gap in relation is giving a piece of advice to resolve the problem or to rectify these mistakes. When parents prevent their children from mistakes by ordering not to do something this will broaden the gap and children will do it just to prove that they can. If parents insist on their way to change the mistakes or certain period of life of their children this will also make the gap wider and children will stop trusting their parents because parents can’t trust the judgments of their offspring. Therefore the only means to reduce the gap is offering help to children, not to be offended if the help is rejected, and be friends with the children. It’s better always to remember the Chinese proverb: “Parents who are afraid to put their foot down usually have children who step on their toes”.