- •Table of Contents
- •Chapter 1. Introducing Interpersonal Communication Theory
- •I. Naïve and Scientific Knowledge (Michael’s Sound Bite 1-1)
- •II. Defining Communication
- •III. Understanding Communication Models
- •IV. What is Interpersonal Communication?
- •V. Martin Buber’s Continuum
- •VI. Principles of Interpersonal Communication
- •VII. Needs and Goals of Interpersonal Communication
- •VIII. Doing Communication Research:
- •IX. Issues in Interpersonal Communication
- •X. Learning Interpersonal Communication
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: Driving Miss Daisy
- •Relationship Problem
- •1. Moving along buber continuum
- •2. Conflicting perspectives on communication
- •3. Identifying causes behind online problems
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. Ethics of Interpersonal Communication
- •Quiz 2.
- •Chapter 2. Considering Self Theory
- •I. Components of Self
- •II. Sources of Self
- •III. Presenting Your Self
- •Improving Your Online Self-Presentation
- •IV. Social Penetration Theory
- •V. The Johari Window
- •VI. Self Disclosure
- •VII. Goffman’s Dramaturgy Metaphor (Michael’s Sound Bite 2-5):
- •VIII. Online Test of Your Johari Window (Michael’s Sound Bite 2-6):
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment
- •Focus on Culture
- •Film: Forrest Gump
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. Your Self-Esteem
- •Quiz 2. Your Self-Disclosure
- •Chapter 3. Perceiving Others Theory
- •I. Perception as a Process
- •II. Creating Explanations
- •III. Experiencing Uncertainty
- •IV. Influences on Perception
- •V. Impression formation
- •VI. Algebraic Impression (Weight of Belief)
- •VII. Stereotyping
- •VIII. Improving Perceptions
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment
- •Focus on Culture
- •Film: December Boys
- •Relationship Problem
- •Improving your communication online
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. Test Your Self-Esteem
- •Quiz 2. Test Your Self Disclosure
- •Chapter 4. Experiencing and Expressing Emotions Theory
- •I. Defining Emotions
- •II. Communicating Emotions
- •III. Types of Emotions
- •IV. Forces Shaping Emotions
- •V. Managing Your Emotional Expression
- •VI. Online Communication and Emotion
- •VI. Anger
- •VII. Passion
- •VIII. Grief
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: Kramer vs Kramer
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. Emotional Intelligence
- •Quiz 2: Testing Chronicle Hostility
- •Colloquium 1: The Game
- •III. Functions of Listening
- •IV. Listening Styles
- •V. Gender Differences in Listening Styles
- •VI. Culture and Listening
- •VII. Preventing Ineffective Listening
- •VII. Dialogic Listening
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: Groundhog Day
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. Identifying Listening Functions
- •Quiz 2. Discover Listening Styles
- •Chapter 6. Communicating Verbally Theory
- •I. Characteristics of Verbal Communication
- •II. Functions of Verbal Communication
- •III. Cooperative Verbal Communication
- •IV. Barriers to Cooperative Verbal Communication
- •V. Conversation Analysis Short Course
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: King’s Speech
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1. American Dialects
- •Quiz 2: Deception Acceptance
- •Chapter 7. Communicating Nonverbally Theory
- •I. Principles of Nonverbal Communication
- •II. Nonverbal Communication Codes:
- •III. Nonverbal behavior classification according to Bill Ausmus and Joseph DeVito
- •IV. Kinesics
- •V. Vocalics
- •VI. Haptics (Tactilics)
- •VII. Proxemics
- •VIII. Chronemics
- •IX. Physical Appearance
- •X. Communicating Through Objects
- •XI. Communicating through the Environment
- •XI. Olfactory Communication
- •XII. Functions of Nonverbal Communication
- •XIII. Responsibly Managing Our Nonverbal Communication
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: Extreme Makeover
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: m-Time or p-Time?
- •Quiz 2: Nonverbal Dominance Notes
- •Chapter 8. Developing Interpersonal Competence Theory
- •I. What is Interpersonal Competence?
- •II. Improving Communication Competence
- •III. Using Rhetorical Messages
- •IV. Improving Your Competence Online
- •V. What is Intercultural Competence?
- •VI. Preventing Intercultural Incompetence
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: The Devil Wears Prada
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: Self-Monitoring
- •Quiz 2: Intercultural Competence
- •Chapter 9. Managing Conflict and Power Theory
- •I. What is Conflict?
- •II. Conflict in Relationships
- •III. Power and Conflict
- •IV. Power Currencies
- •V. Power and Culture
- •VI. Power and Gender
- •VII. Conflict Handling Styles
- •VIII. Barriers to Constructive Conflict
- •IX. Conflict Resolutions and Outcomes
- •X. Influence of Gender, Culture and Technology on Conflict
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: The Queen
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: High or Low Power Distance
- •Quiz 2: Conflict Approach
- •Colloquium 2. The problem Chapter 10. Relationships with Romantic Partners Theory I. Defining Romantic Relationships
- •II. Key Elements of Romantic Relationships
- •III. Influences on Romantic Attraction
- •IV. Technology and Romantic Attraction
- •V. Stages of Romantic Relationships According to Mark Knapp
- •VI. Maintaining Romantic Relationships
- •VII. Dark Side of Romantic Relationships
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Infidelity internationally
- •Film: On Golden Pond
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: Love Attitude
- •Quiz 2: Betraying Romantic Partner
- •Chapter 11. Relationships with Family and Friends Theory
- •I. Defining Family
- •II. Types of Families
- •III. Communication Patterns in Family
- •IV. Maintaining Family Relationships
- •V. Dealing with Family Tensions
- •VI. Defining Friendship
- •VII. Different Types of Friendships
- •VIII. Gender and Friendship
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: Legends of the Fall
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: Communication Patterns in the Family
- •Quiz 2: What Kind of a Friend I Am?
- •Chapter 12. Relationships in the Workplace Theory
- •I. Defining Workplace Relationships
- •II. Workplace Culture
- •III. Supportive and Defensive Organizational Climate
- •IV. Maintaining Peer Relationships
- •V. Maintaining Mixed Status Relationships
- •VI. Workplace Abuse
- •VII. Sexual Harassment
- •Practice
- •I. Opening Story: Starting the Discussion
- •II. Terms
- •III. Names
- •IV. Recap Questions
- •V. Self-Reflection Items
- •VI. Creative Assignment Focus on Culture
- •Film: The Exam
- •Relationship Problem
- •VII. Extra Credit: Quiz
- •Quiz 1: Testing Maintenance of Peer Relationships
- •Quiz 2: Perception of Sexual Harassment
- •Colloquium 3: the paper
VI. Preventing Intercultural Incompetence
Deal with communication apprehension, fear of communicating (James McCroskey): For this purpose: (a) develop competent communication plans; (b) plan specific moves to combat your anxiety; (c) plan for contingencies; (d) at any time get ready to use several moves and several scenarios. Deeply entrenched CA is a psychological problem.
Overcome shyness and loneliness.
Richard Daly (Michael’s Sound Bite 8-3): Overcoming shyness: (a) figure out what causes shyness and practice mental mantras that will help you in these situations; (b) build your confidence by stating what you know well, learn more things every day; (c) learn to look and act approachable; (d) set clear SMART goals for yourself; (e) make new friends; (f) try and do things you had never done before; (g) do not compare yourself to others; (h) follow the rules but do not overdo it (From http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-Shyness)
Deeply entrenched shyness is a psychological problem.
(Michael’s Sound Bite 8-4): Overcoming loneliness: (a) study in groups; (b) take walks with someone; (c) find a new special someone; (d) focus on tasks instead of people, don’t get anchored to people who can’t always be with you; (e) start a project with someone. http://www.2knowmyself.com/loneliness/overcoming_loneliness
Deeply entrenched loneliness is a psychological problem.
DISCUSSION STARTER 6: In what ways, if any, has shyness affected your communication? Your relationships? Has shyness ever led you to become lonely? What communication plans might help you overcome shyness and alleviate loneliness?
Overcoming defensiveness
Defensiveness refers to providing incompetent messages in response to suggestions, criticism and perceived slights. James Alexander: Defensiveness comes in four types: (a) dogmatic messages (I am always right); (b) superiority messages (I have special knowledge, ability and status, higher than my interlocutor); (c) indifference messages (suggestion is irrelevant, uninteresting, unimportant); (d) control messages (squelching criticism by controlling the individual or the context.
Defensiveness is instinctive. Therefore: (a) practice preventive anger management strategies (encounter avoidance or restructuring); (b) use reappraisal and the Jefferson strategy; (c) check perceptions; (d) use rhetorical, not conventional or expressive messages.
Deeply entrenched defensiveness is a psychological problem.
DISCUSSION STARTER 7: Recall a situation in which you were offered a suggestion, advice, or criticism and you reacted defensively. What caused your reaction? What were the outcomes of your defensive communication? How could you haveprevented a defensiveresponse?
Overcoming verbal aggression
Dominic Infante: Verbal aggression is the tendency to attack others’ self-concepts rather than their positions in conversation. Verbally aggressive people: (a) denigrate other people’s character, abilities or physical appearance; (b) use profanities; (c) express aggression through behaviors, such as mocking, making rude gestures, or assaulting.
Aggression stems from several factors: (a) is a temporary mental state due to stress, exhaustion, frustration or anger; (b) helps us achieve short-term goals; (c) appears effective in retrospect and analysis of other people’s behavior.
Therefore, to combat aggression you must address root causes: (a) is it stress from the job, a troubled relationship or a family conflict? (b) is it related to chronic hostility?
Dominic Infante: Tips for handling aggression: (a) avoid teasing, baiting or insulting; (b) minimize contact with the aggressive person; (c) remain polite, express empathy, do not attack; (d) end the interaction.
Often-occurring and abusive verbal aggression may present a psychological and/or a legal problem.
DISCUSSION STARTER 8: Think of encounters you’ve had with verbally aggressive people. How have you handled them? Did your approach work? What alternatives might have produced better results?