• Is he willing to commit to a quality long term relationship?

Women unconsciously analyze and evaluate each relationship from moment to moment. Women have an extraordinary ability to evaluate the body language, tone of voice, and words used by men. Women watch carefully how sincere, honest, and close their relationship really is with new men. (Guys, beware! She starts keeping score right after you say, "Hello".)

• Is he looking for more than just sex in a relationship?

Women learn at an early age about what gets most guys' attention, and it mostly deals with sex or his status. So most women spend considerable time and money trying to appear young, healthy, and sexy in order to appeal to men's desire for sex. If a woman can attract a lot of men, then she has a better chance of "capturing" the best one as mate and provider for her and the children.

So men need to understand that often women appear to be more sexy than they really are. Most men place a high priority on sex in any relationship with a woman. However, most women don't share that same high level of interest in sex -- so they very often fake it.

Below is a more complete list of characteristics that most women seek in a man. So guys, follow these tips to convince your woman that you are her best choice for a mate. (This will turn her on more than anything else!)

PRACTICAL WAYS TO MAKE HER WANT YOU

• Show your interest and dedication to her well-being and her high value to you. Most women want to feel they are important and valuable so the men will protect and care for them. If you satisfy her survival needs, her body chemistry will rev up and you will be more attractive to her.

• Prove to her that you really value her and are interested in what she thinks. When you are doing something and she talks to you, do this:

  1. Stop what you are doing, look in her eyes and listen with interest. (Try to not go glassy-eyed!)

  2. Really listen to what she has to say. She will know if you are interested by the size of your eye pupils! (Small pupils mean you aren't interested!)

  3. Encourage her to say more. Let her talk and never jump-in on top of her words. Let her finish, then validate what she said. (Example: "Yes! I agree with what you said. I like that idea.") And most importantly: Don't try to change her view of things to your opinion. Just try to see her world the way she sees it, even if you "know she is wrong".

  4. Notice if her voice drops at the end of her statement. If her voice does not drop, she has more to say! Keep listening. Only after she is finished should you go back to what you were doing.

(Guys, get this: She is talking to establish a RELATIONSHIP. And she is watching you to see how interested you are in doing that. If you screw up this connection you will be replaced by the first guy who can do a better job of relating!)

• When she has a problem or concern that she shares with you, don't try to change her or "fix her". That implies there is something wrong with her, but not with you. The DNA programming here is this: Women need to express emotions and how they feel about their personal problems. They want to be heard. That is how they build personal, trusted relationships: They share their problems. To the guy it may sound like complaining or a cry for rescue. It is not a request to get fixed!

When women express feelings or a problem, this often comes across to men as something that needs to be fixed. So naturally, men want to jump in and fix everything. Guys don't try to fix her! Mostly just listen and accept her the way she is. She just wants to be heard and to express her feelings. That is what women do to build a relationship! Just offer your support and help only if she requests it.

• Guys don't try to be anything you aren't! Save the status bragging for your buddies. Men have a strong DNA need to raise their status, so they compete, brag, or lie to try to show they are "the best hunter in the tribe". Just be real and let her see that you are an honest and caring guy -- just like every woman wants but has a hard time finding.

• Don't try to disguise your feelings from a woman. Woman can naturally read body language and facial micro-movements without even trying. If you try to hide your real feelings, she will see you as a big fake and not trust anything you say or do. She will not feel safe and secure with you. Her true passion will never be released with you!

FACT 4:  HOW TO MAKE HER WANT YOU!

Make her want you by displaying traits that she wants to see in a mate. Many desired traits actually come from women's ancestors who lived in a very different dangerous world.

A woman wants to establish a close on-going relationship. This implies safety and security for her and her children.

A woman wants to see that her mate values her. This implies she will be cherished and protected.

Only after a woman's survival needs are satisfied will she be ready to let her passion run freely.

• Women feel emotional attraction toward a man before physical attraction.

• Men feel physical attraction toward a woman before emotional attraction.

DATING AGGRESSIVE MEN

Historically, both male animals and men have had to be aggressive in seeking a mate. One of the primary male hormones that helps in mating is testosterone. It makes males both "horny" and aggressive but men don't have to butt heads like some male animals do to get a mate. (I'm glad for that!!!)

However, men still need to show their courage and aggression in ACCEPTABLE ways to impress women. The man who can do his acceptable aggressive tactics best, has a better opportunity at getting accepted by the woman he desires.

Evolutionarily speaking, "civilized behavior" became fashionable only in very recent times, and men's aggressive acts for getting a woman's attention have been greatly restricted. Today, an acceptable aggressive act that gets a woman's attention is simply walking up to her with an "opening line." In most western countries this is acceptable aggressive behavior for men in public places like a bar, club, or dance hall. This action is usually not acceptable for women to do. That is just one of the many "unwritten rules" on flirting and dating.