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Please discover what women want! (Take a step further today and better your relationships)
Finally! And the results may surprise you! What women want is driven primarily by ancient DNA from their female ancestors. And it is true for women in all cultures and countries. (No need to study what most men want. That article would be only one page and one sentence!)
Women's ancient DNA greatly affects daily moods, behaviors, and decisions. Anyone who understands women's DNA programming will know a lot about what women really want! (Guys, this means you can get what you want and so can she!)
Discover here the 12 very important facts researchers have identified about most women's needs and desires. Understanding these basic facts will greatly improve your relationship, pleasure, and appreciation for every woman you meet. (And guys, you can save a whole lot of wasted energy, time, and money!)
A SHORT HISTORY OF MEN AND WOMEN
Approximately 250,000 years ago our species had evolved into what are now called "modern humans" who walked erect on two legs, made tools, and used language. They lived in nomadic bands of 20 to 30 hunters and gatherers who did little more than survive and breed. They were a hardy and horny species. Their successful traits for surviving and breeding repeated over time became embedded in their DNA, which was passed on to today's men and women. (Yes, today we still have some caveman and cavewoman in us!)
By about 30,000 years ago, our ancestors had greatly increased in number and had evolved in body and brain very close to the physical likeness we are today. Very few physical changes have occurred in human bodies and brains over the past 30,000 years. (Some women complain that some men's behaviors have not improved much since then either!)
So here we are, still using a body and brain design that is approximately 30,000 years old! This body is designed primarily to survive and breed.
A QUICK HISTORY ABOUT WOMEN, RELATIONSHIPS, AND SEX
In ancient times while the men were away on the daily hunt, the women tended the children and worked in groups for safety while gathering seeds, roots, berries, and nuts. These daily activities helped women develop a high skill for spreading their attention among several activities while talking to everyone at the same time. Much of their talk was to improve their relationships within the group of women. It was very important for a woman to be accepted by the other women in the group for her continued protection and survival.
For thousands of generations, woman living in communal groups developed good multi-tasking, communication, and relationship skills. Women learned to cooperate rather than compete like the men did. An equal and harmonious relationship within the group was the best way for women to survive in those hard times. Today's modern women still place a high priority on maintaining good relationships, even though often it is not necessary to insure their survival.
HOW WOMEN BUILD RELATIONSHIPS
For women, relationship-building is generally a part of every activity with everyone. Women build relationships by freely talking about their daily trivia and troubles. "I will tell you about my life and troubles, and you may tell me about yours so that we can be really close." This unconsciously reassures them they have a good relationship, are protected, safe, and will survive.
When a woman tries to build a relationship with a man by talking about her personal life and problems, men don't understand what is happening. Men hear women's problems as a request for help, so men respond with solutions to the women's problems. When a man offers his recommended solution, the woman often feels as if he is trying to diminish her problem or cut her off. Women do not see a relationship developing with the man who wants to "fix her problems." Men don't understand women building relationships with daily trivia and women don't understand men building status by taking action to fix things. Women don't want to be fixed! That makes them feel like they are broken or defective. They want to be heard and form a close relationship!
FACT 1: ABOUT MEN, WOMEN, AND RELATIONSHIPS
Women have a strong need in their DNA to pass on their genes to their children. But historically this was not easily done without protection and support from a man. Because this need still is in women's DNA, women still place a high priority on finding men who will stick around to protect and support them and their children.
Most women want a good sound relationship going before giving sex to the man she selects as the best one to insure survival of her and her children. This drive is even in women who are just dating for fun and not interested in having children.
Most men strive to achieve high status and thereby get a lot of sex. This drive begins as a teenager and may not ever stop until they drop dead. Sex with only one woman for a lifetime is not a high priority for many men. Lots of sex with any woman desired is most men's dream!
MEN MUST DO DATING AND COURTING
A man's challenge in finding a good mate is to do dating and courting. This dating game is not easy and involves a lot of experimenting and sometimes is filled with uncomfortable mistakes. Wise men study the rules of this game and get the best women. Guys, you should first understand some terminology used in this mate hunting game.
What is DATING, COURTING, and MATING?
Dating is the process of two people joining in activities in order to get to know each other better and to get closer physically and emotionally.
Courting is frequent dating by the man to persuade the woman to be his mate. (Both are on their best behavior during this time and there is no guarantee that "what you see is what you get later!")
Mating is the mutually agreeable act of male and female becoming mates. Mating may be just a way of having some fun or surviving better. This arrangement is also often called a "relationship". Relationships often involve having sex for pleasure and bonding, but not to produce offspring.
HOW WE DO DATING AND COURTING TO FIND A MATE
Men today usually seek a woman as a mate by courting. Frequent dates lets her know that he is interested in her as a possible mate and/or a sexual partner. The mate-seeking process varies by culture and religion, and there are traditional rules for mating that may or may not be written down.
In most western cultures, courting is done in ways that demonstrates a man's best characteristics so the woman will accept him closer emotionally and physically over time. The courting man's general pattern is to request frequent dates. During this time he will appeal most positively to his selected woman so she will invite him closer emotionally and physically. This generally includes lots of touching and maybe even you-know-what.
In order for him to be accepted by her, he has to take his time and let her see his many good characteristics. The woman makes the ultimate decision to let him get closer, and maybe even let him do that really good-feeling stuff with her.
Courting Allows the Woman Time to Evaluate the Men and Select the Best One
Women are unconsciously watching for signs of how good of a protector and provider the man is. Most women want to know if the man will make a good provider mate, and will stick around to take care of her and the offspring after the initial fun is over. Most woman need reassurance that the man really likes and values her, and that he is not going to just use her for his own pleasure then abandon her. (GUYS: She is looking for you to demonstrate being stimulating, attentive, protecting, and caring in all matters.)
FACT 2: HOW THE MATING GAME REALLY WORKS
Men must court women to find a mate.
If a man does his courting well, he may be able to get his desired woman into a relationship. She makes the final decision to let him in, or not, to her life and bed.
Women look for the best man available.
Dating and courting gives a woman the opportunity and time to evaluate the men. The woman normally has the chance to select the best one who will help insure the survival of her and her offspring in the future.
Here is the real evolution secret:
Every woman is looking for the ONE man to satisfy ALL her needs.
Every man is looking for ALL women to satisfy his ONE need!
MEN AND WOMEN WANT DIFFERENT THINGS FROM EACH OTHER
Even though women and men may act and dress in modern acceptable ways, they are all still strongly influenced by their ancient ancestors' desires. Based on the way our ancestors succeeded in mating over eons, here is what still remains in many women's and men's DNA today:
Women's DNA programming makes them look for a strong mate who will stick around to protect her and help raise the children.
Most women want a monogamous relationship and long term commitment before turning on the passion hormones. This scheme is what worked best for women to make babies and survive during the past several million years. This need is even in women not consciously thinking about marrying and raising children!
Nature has even built into women a natural means of helping her select the man who sticks around. Women are only fertile approximately 24 hours a month. The guy who is there knocking on her door regularly has the best chance of making her pregnant. Incidentally, men's sperm are pretty smart: they will lay and wait for her egg for up to 72 hours!
Men's ancient DNA strategy for producing the most offspring was to have frequent sex with as many women as possible.
Men's DNA programming is for frequent sex with any willing healthy female, and with no commitments. That is what worked best for millions of men's male ancestors to pass on their DNA genes.
FACT 3: WHAT WOMEN WANT OR EXPECT IN A MAN.
Most women pay close attention to how men accumulate power and resources, and how generous they are. Women want a mate who dedicates himself and his resources totally to insuring survival and a good life for her and her children.
Women want EMOTIONAL intimacy.
Men want PHYSICAL intimacy.
GUYS, LEARN WHAT SHE REALLY WANTS
At the top of women's unconscious needs list in a relationship is safety, security, and survival. These are relatively insured if they have high value to their mate who will protect and provide for them in the long term. So here are two things women will watch for first in a man's connection with them: